What Erin can't afford not to do, however, is follow my plan to turn things around:
  • Control the cash flow. Unfortunately, Erin must take a drastic step and move all the couple's money to a new checking account—in her name only. She needs to hold the purse strings from now on.
  • Get a will and trust. The Masons have neither, which puts their children at risk. I sent Erin and Jeff my Must Have Documents Kit (available at and asked them to fill the forms out pronto.
  • Purchase ample life insurance. The couple had a $90,000 policy on Jeff's life, which is equal to about 1.5 years of their living expenses. You need a death benefit equal to at least 20 times your annual living needs—and the Masons' policy should insure Erin's life, too, since she's also a breadwinner. Erin went to and qualified for a $1.2 million, 15-year-level term policy costing just $100 a month.
  • Create a special needs trust. If anything happened to Erin and Jeff, whatever inheritance Joseph received could be kept in this account to ensure that he qualified for the federal Supplemental Security Income program. SSI provides financial support to the disabled, but disqualifies any individual with more than $2,000 in assets (excluding a home and a car) from receiving benefits. Should Joseph inherit anything more, keeping the money in this trust would allow him to remain eligible for those federal funds.
  • Set aside money for taxes. I want Erin to arrange an automatic deposit into a savings account so the money is waiting when the quarterly payments are due. This will help prevent another massive bill next April.
  • Build an emergency fund. I recommended the Save Yourself account at TD Ameritrade ( If Erin has at least $100 automatically deposited each month, after 12 deposits she'll receive $100. Once the year is up, she can shop for a better interest rate.
  • Keep the car. Erin has 18 months left on a car loan costing $415 a month. (They own Jeff's car outright.) When the loan is paid off, Erin needs to drive that car for at least five more years and put the $415 toward the emergency fund. In five years that would add about $25,000 to their savings.

Erin was enthusiastic about following through. "After we spoke, I canceled cable, saving $35 a month, tweaked our YMCA membership to be summer only—part of Joseph's ongoing therapy is swimming—and scaled back the charitable giving," she said. She's got the life insurance, and is working on the special needs trust. Best of all, after his initial resistance, Jeff came around. Erin told me, "He's giving me a ton of stuff to sell on eBay, and he's researching ways to save energy in the house and make our own home improvements. He's taking your words as a personal challenge." Music to my ears!

Buckling down is hard, but Erin has been so willing to change. And that's the attitude that will help her become the mom she wants to be: one who's committed to doing the right thing for her family.

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