Let Him Be Your Biggest Cheerleader
Share enough about your day to allow him to get the same sense from you. What's it like working in that big hospital? Do you get a rush having all those people report to you? Share with him when you get a raise or promotion or kudos for a job well done. Don't bury it because you're afraid to overshadow him.
Allow him to be proud of you in the same way that you are of him. Concentrate on what's good for your family, not the perceptions of the outside world. It will help immensely if you can shut out the noise. As women have risen in the working world, we have seen instances where they turn down jobs involving travel or promotions—even if they would enjoy those opportunities—because they think they'll be perceived to be bad wives or bad mothers. You'll be a lot less likely to make choices that matter to others (others who are largely irrelevant) if you and your spouse are working as a team.
Do it, say this, and sound smart: "As long as it works for our family, who cares what anyone else thinks?"
Love and Money continues...