You may have to get each other out of the house, out of the busyness of everyday life, in order to pay attention to each other's needs. So date. Once a week is a must. Twice a week is a plus. And at least a few times a year (even if you have to bribe a sibling or a friend or pay a sitter) leave the kids at home or ship them out so you can have a quiet overnight or weekend. Being in your own house in front of a fire, reading books and rubbing each other's feet, or eating popcorn and watching a video you've chosen together without little ones begging for attention is necessary for the preservation of a romantic relationship.
Do it, say this, and sound smart: "I made a dinner reservation for 8:00, the sitter is coming at 7:30. You can thank me later."
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