Money fights usually aren't about money. Sometimes they're about power. Sometimes, when assets are unequal, they're about self-esteem or jealousy. Sometimes they're about attention, if in your mind money equals love or affection.
Point being, it's really important for you both to try to understand what's driving your anger, instead of letting it fester. If you're upset about something, hash it out, but do it calmly. If you can't, enlist the help of a financial planner or even a marriage counselor.
Should you have separate bank accounts?