More and more women are out-earning their husbands, and it's a good trend for the many women who value the career they've made for themselves. When the breadwinner in a relationship is a woman though, it can lead to a sticky situation for some couples, says writer Ruth Davis Konigsberg, who wrote about her own marriage in "Jobs and Monsters" in the December 2006 issue of ELLE magazine. Jean talks to Ruth about what made her write the story, what she learned from her situation, and the best way to mesh varying income levels and financial philosophies. Here's what Ruth had to say:
If you are having significant issues that are damaging the marriage, don't be afraid to try couples counseling, Ruth says.
Ruth says that often the key to happiness is for the lower-income partner, which may be the man, to take on some extra household duties to create balance.
Fundamentally, it's most important that you both love and enjoy your careers. You may think that you're arguing about money, but deeper issues are likely involved as well.
Consider whether making changes in your lives, such as moving to a less expensive area, will help solve some of the problems and take the pressure off.