Do you use money to buy affection and approval from your friends, family, and children?
  • Get real about why you're doing what you're doing. What's stopping you from dealing with the real issue? Why not deal with it instead of going shopping? What does persistent buying teach your family?
  • Don't underestimate children; they'll learn from your actions. A real contribution would be to balance your life so you can be there for them. Don't try to justify that you are dealing with it by 'buying' their love.
  • Most likely, your behavior is a result of the guilt you feel for not having enough time to spend with your children. Buying is a false substitute and an illusion.
  • Life is about compromise. You must figure out a way to maximize your time with your family. By putting yourself in debt, you put their future in jeopardy and make the problem worse
  • Be honest. Ask yourself, "How insulting is this to me that I have buy my way into every relationship?"
  • Step up and say, "If they like me, they like me." It's better to be healthy alone than sick with someone else. And if you have to pay somebody to like you, they're not much of a friend.
  • Deal with this problem emotionally, not financially. When you quit hiding behind gifts, you'll be forced to deal with your real problem.


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