With the money you don't spend on your wedding, Rabbi Shmuley says you can get ahead in other areas of life. "[Use the money for a] down payment on house, pay off school debts, start a business," he says. As long as you celebrate with friends and can inspire others with the power of your love for each other, Rabbi Shmuley says your wedding day will be a wonderful memory that won't leave behind bills that could haunt you for a few decades.
"An expensive wedding does not a good marriage make. Eloping denies your family and friends from celebrating your joyous occasion with you. Best scenario: Have a modest wedding where the occasion is memorable through joyous dancing and put the rest of your money into a down payment on a house."