Her best-selling books Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office and Nice Girls Don't Get Rich have made Dr. Lois Frankel a well-known author and go-to resource for women who want to succeed at work. Jean talks with Dr. Frankel about her latest book, See Jane Lead: 99 Ways for Women to Take Charge at Work .
Lois says she wrote See Jane Lead because she noticed that there are not as many female CEOs and politicians as there should be in this day and age. "We have arrived at a time when the people who have the power don't know what they are doing," Dr. Frankel says. "There are not enough women's voices in the mix and that is what the problem is." See Jane Lead offers women 99 tactics that Dr. Frankel says they can use to get raises and promotions and to recognize their leadership potential. "Women don't think of themselves as leaders, yet they lead all the time," she says. "Who started the PTA? Who started the Red Cross? Who started Planned Parenthood? Women, women, women," Dr. Frankel says.
Dr. Frankel shares some tips for women who want to be successful leaders in the workplace:
Before you can become a leader, Dr. Frankel says you have to learn to not take things personally, not sweat the small stuff and not be afraid to brag a bit. "I think you can brag with modesty, and what I suggest to people is that you acknowledge the fact," she says. "If somebody says to you in the workplace, 'You did a great a job on that,' being able to say, 'Thank you so much, I worked hard on it, thank you for recognizing it'—that does not sound like bragging."
Once you are in the position of becoming a leader, Dr. Frankel says you must have a vision for the people who are under you. "If you are managing a department, you sit down and write out a 25-word statement about your vision for this department," she says. "It should be something that inspires and motivates."
Dr. Frankel says developing the ability to ask someone for a favor is an important tactic to learn. In addition, she says building relationships, offering help to others and asking for a favor in return will help you make your way up the ladder faster. "You identify, 'Where is the quid pro quo?' And you make sure you hold up your end of the deal, and when you do that, it gives you the right to go back and ask for a favor," Dr. Frankel says.
Printed from Oprah.com on Thursday, December 12, 2013