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  • Take joint ownership of problems and solutions. Instead of starting sentences with "You should," try "How do we want to solve this?"
  • Assume the other person has a valid reason for his or her system. Listen carefully until you understand. Repeat back to confirm.
  • Concentrate on your shared goal: a home you both enjoy, where you can find your things. Be willing to compromise.
  • Stay focused. Avoid jumping from one project to another.
  • Schedule a mutually acceptable time to tackle clutter. Let the answering machine pick up calls.
  • Have fun. Get a little bell and ring it the minute either person breaks one of the rules.