Are you a bully?
- You attempt the obviously impossible task of doing a new job without training or time to learn new skills, but that work is never good enough for the boss.
- Surprise meetings are called by your boss with no results other than further humiliation.
- Everything your tormentor does to you is arbitrary and capricious, working a personal agenda that undermines the employer's legitimate business interests.
- Others at work have been told to stop working, talking or socializing with you.
- You constantly feel agitated and anxious, experiencing a sense of doom, waiting for bad things to happen.
- No matter what you do, you are never left alone to do your job without interference.
- People feel justified screaming or yelling at you in front of others, but you are punished if you scream back.
- HR tells you that your harassment isn't illegal, that you have to "work it out between yourselves."
- You finally, firmly confront your tormentor to stop the abusive conduct, you are accused of harassment.
- You are shocked when accused of incompetence despite a history of objective excellence, typically by someone who cannot do your job.
- Everyone—co-workers, senior bosses, HR—agrees (in person and orally) that your tormentor is a jerk, but there is nothing they will do about it (and deny saying what they said later when asked to support you).
- Your request to transfer to an open position under another boss is mysteriously denied.
Published on September 22, 2009