While Barbara presents herself as a tough, funny person, Bob says he sees that she uses that front to hide deep pain and vulnerability. She says that pain—and a weight gain of 70 pounds—stems from a time during her third marriage when she was feeling extremely guilty. "At one point, he had convinced me to leave my children with their father. … I'm so sorry that I did that. I'm so embarrassed. I just made wrong choices for him."
Bob says that this realization was a vital step for Barbara's physical and emotional health. "[She] realized that she was using cigarettes and using food as a way to punish herself," he says. "And I think that's starting to unravel."