For anyone struggling to lose weight, there's more to it than counting calories and exercising. Bob says that in order to lose weight and keep it off, you must get honest with yourself about why you abuse food.
While Barbara presents herself as a tough, funny person, Bob says he sees that she uses that front to hide deep pain and vulnerability. She says that pain—and a weight gain of 70 pounds—stems from a time during her third marriage when she was feeling extremely guilty. "At one point, he had convinced me to leave my children with their father. … I'm so sorry that I did that. I'm so embarrassed. I just made wrong choices for him."
Bob says that this realization was a vital step for Barbara's physical and emotional health. "[She] realized that she was using cigarettes and using food as a way to punish herself," he says. "And I think that's starting to unravel."