What You Tried: You've configured your room to suit your needs. The one thing you can't change? The person you share it with.
What You Should Try: Give up on finding an ideal temperature that suits you both.
Women's core body temperatures fluctuate due to hormonal changes during menstruation and menopause (
birth control pills can also raise it slightly). At the same time, because women are usually smaller than men, they have a
different distribution of fat and tend to have icy extremities, we tend to
feel cold faster. Sharing a blanket can amplify the heat—except for when he pulls it off you.
Claim Your Space: Instead of separate rooms, try separate sheets, suggests John Dittami, an Austria-based sleep researcher and a coauthor of the book
Sleeping Better Together. Dittami has talked to couples who claim this tactic saved their marriages. Another idea: Put a pillow barrier between the two of you to block some of his body heat and movement.
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