Could I have accidentally peed the bed during sex?
If the condom is intact and you've ruled out the possibility that the wet spot came from him, take a discreet sniff. Does the wet spot smell like urine? If so, there's your answer. There's often a tiny bit of fluid left in the bladder even after women use the bathroom, says Lauren Streicher, MD
, assistant professor of obstetrics and gynecology at Northwestern University's Feinberg School of Medicine. Certain sexual positions—such as the missionary—can put enough pressure on that area to cause it to leak. If this happens only once in a while, then there's no need to worry. If the fluid has no odor or a musky scent and you're about to have your period, then, Streicher says, you may have ejaculated. (Hey, it happened on Sex and the City
, so it could happen to you, too!) "But if you're regularly leaking urine, it could be a sign of incontinence," she says. She advises strengthening your pelvic-floor muscles through Kegels (seriously, they work!
) and consider bringing this up with your gynecologist or a women's health physical therapist
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