Is This Normal? Sex Questions Couples Are Too Embarrassed to Ask
Are we the only people in the world not having crazy, kinky, bondage-S&M-upside-down-frosting-covered sex?
Kink tends to be over-reported, Fulbright says. Even the number of people having anal sex, which has increased over the past few years, is still pretty low compared with how often we hear about it, she says: about 21 percent of women in their late 20s or 30s, and about 12 percent of women in their 40s; 21 to 27 percent of men in the same age groups, according to data from the Kinsey Institute. "Whatever kind of sex you're having is terrific, as long as you—and your partner—feel good about it," says Fulbright.
Are we the only couple in the world not having sex at all?
About 7 percent of married people and 17.7 percent of partnered people in their 30s and 40s say they haven't had sex in the past year, according to the 2010 National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior. Whether you find that comforting or alarming, Fulbright wants to remind you of the fringe benefits of getting busy: Sex improves the muscle tone of the pelvic floor, lubricates the vaginal tissues, can help prevent yeast infections, releases stress, and eases migraines, chronic back pain and PMS-related cramps. Sex also has the potential to lower your risk of developing heart disease and can boost your immune system.
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