Too often the holidays become a time for performance—all the things you have to do in order to consider yourself a good mother, wife, or hostess. So be sure to keep your holiday plans within realistic limits. Remember, the most important thing about the holidays is the spiritual elements: closeness to family; reaching out to others, especially those less fortunate; meditation or prayer; and sharing good times. Others should not be criticizing the quality of your holiday décor or running white gloves over the surface of your mantelpiece, so neither should you.
The holidays aren't as jolly for some as they are for others, and that's normal. But if you're hit with the blues, take Elizabeth Lesser's advice on dealing with stress, unrealistic expectations and depression this holiday season.