Yvonne urges every family to use these intervention tools to begin their own healing. "One of the best gifts we can give to our children is for us to do our own work, to do our own healing," she says. "Tell the family, 'We're taking care of ourselves.'"
If you or a loved one are struggling with obesity, it's important to realize that food is only a small part of the problem. Ask yourself, "What are you really hungry for?" Then, pay attention to a formula that Rich says is essential to change—notice, choose and act. "Notice what's happening, choose how you'd like it to be and then take action because you can't have the same old story again and get in a victim mentality," he says. "The key is that you do the emotional work you need to do so you feel like you have communication and you can work together, and that can actually put your attention in the same direction."
Looking for the freedom to move on or to help someone else move on? It can often be found in a simple apology. "We do the best we can as parents, but the truth is most of us had more training on how to drive a car than to be parents," Yvonne says. "We're going to make mistakes. The biggest mistake we can make is not admitting we make a mistake. So to go to our kids, and like so many of you did during the challenge day, look our kids in the eye and say, 'You know what? I made a mistake. I'm sorry.' Best gift we can give our kids. And it frees ourselves. It frees us all."
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