Well, Lady Eve, I don't mind telling you that the idea of "getting a man at any cost" has always seemed VERY ALIEN to me. But remember that I come from Cleveland, where "normal" mindsets have been a rapidly decreasing minority for a long time. Around here, women are more interested in leaving the State than finding a man here.

But in my opinion, love REQUIRES conscience. REAL love does, anyway.

Love means putting someone else FIRST. And sadly, what you are describing sounds more like POSSESSION than love.

On more than one occasion, I have mentioned people scoffing at me with: THE ONLY REASON YOU WANT TO HAVE A GIRLFRIEND/WIFE/FAMILY IS BECAUSE EVERYONE ELSE HAS ONE. CAN'T YOU LEARN TO THINK FOR YOURSELF?

Hypocrisy is the spice of life yet again, it seems.