Depends.

No one on the board has to the right to assume such a thing about other members on this board.

Persons shouldn't push their own standards of what love is and isn't, because the only one that can fully achieve that quality is the "Creator" in my view.

Jinda

Greetings Mitsuku

Perhaps everything you see in someone else is really just a reflection of you.?

love

Jeff

Good questions to ponder over hey?

Pretending is a funny thing...
Remember playing pretend as a child?
So why do people pretend?
Pretend anything to be loving, to be sexy to be smart, to know lots of people...etc

Caroline Myss teaches about archetypes.
The way i see it is an archetype is running the person vs them using it.
In this case you spotted the archetype Samaritan.
Caroline does this big thing about them, i will look up what she says about the shadow Samaritan.

No one has the right? Are you serious? Not only do they have the right, many do it quite regularly; including me, of course!! In some cases it is probably close to unavoidable. NOW, what one does after having made assumption is the interesting part. Does one check out one's assumptions before acting on them? Is one open to the possibility that they have assumed incorrectly?

And it does not apply only to whether someone might or might not be loving. It also applies to things like whether one is correct in their imaginings about others' intentions and motives.

A person can only "correctly" apply those standards to themselve's.

Other people are not "subject" to those standards that they live by, that is partial and differs from each person.

People may assert the claim, but the reality is, that they have no power unless that person accepts that evaluation.

Im not sure if people here resonate with this stuff or not...
If not not.
Caroline says the shadow of Samaritan is:
Exacting appreciation and recognition for the help you offer.

I feel when adults pretend that they need to.
They need to see themselves like that and if i take it away from them...
Well its not my place to do that.
I read that the imagination is the buffer.
I feel people need their fantasys as much as they need food.
When they are ready to drop it they will.
Did you ever have one you needed?

i did. Tee hee

How do we see the difference?
If we look in the mirror or can see them it shows up as a fakeness in the posture.
If I can not see the person,
i use my body to feel the energy of the person.

Its not my place to judge the motives of other people. My place is to love all unconditionally and to have compassion. If someone appears to be pretending to be loving but I have doubts about their authenticity, then I should first see if it is perhaps me seeing myself in them and perhaps that is why they bug me so much is because I see in them what I do not want to look at in myself. If on the other hand they really are pretending, and I am free of pretense, then their pretense will only elicit my compassion and I will find myself yearning to see them free for their sakes.

Let me give an example: An acquaintance of mine is constantly talking about love but the next moment she's condemning all kind of her supposed friends, making derogatory remarks about them, letting you know she is so much more 'advanced' in life than these people, etc.

Is this real love? I don't think so. Loving personalities make you feel they are loving.. The others rather talk about love than radiate it..

Or perhaps it isn't?

I'm not talking about power, I know I can't make another person see things they don't want to see, but I do think it shows sometimes.We don't communicate solely by words, you know.. And we are what we do, not what we say.

Ok i will do a post about Caroline Myss and Archetypes. Check her web page out. She has written several best selling books. "Anatamy of the Spirit" is the most popular one.
Do you know much about archetypes?
Carl Jung is who started the archetype conversation going.
Caroline wrote a book called "Sacred Contracts."
It is in this book that she gives her take on archetypes.
I reallly like it.
In fact so much that i took Caroline's 4 year course on archetypes.
That was about 3 years ago.

I did want to say i think George Bush is an example of a pretender.
Many people fall for what they are pretending.
I feel the people who fall for it are kinda pretenders themselves?
Well maybe all that is not fair to say...
I sometimes say and feel un fair stuff. Geez, spank me.lol
Ok ill be back. Nice chatting with you.
I like your energy.

OOps i meant "Anatomy of the Spirit"

Can you think of any public people who pretend?
I think it is good to give examples of people we all kinda know about who do this.
Not to judge them but just to look.
How about that popular church man who was convicted of doing crank and having relationships with men...
Was he pretending?
He was on Oprah...ummm

I just thought of the saying
"Fake it to make it."