Are We Predestined in Life?

Posted on Oct 25, 2009 6:58 PM

There was a great comment to my article, ¿2 Approaches to Heal Your Traumas from Past Lives¿ on this Oprah¿s forum. It asked, ¿Are we predestined to do the things that we do? Are we really making choices or following a predestined path?¿

What is destiny?
Life is truly like a journey. We start at our birth point. There are many paths, and as we come to intersections, we make decisions on which path to take. We have an overall plan -- prior to incarnation, we chose a set of life lessons so we want to experience certain events to learn the lessons. There are a few destinations that we don¿t want to miss. And then, there are also handful of secondary destinations that we love to visit if the situation is right. The life lessons usually prepare us to get to these destinations.

Now the interesting point is that the paths of life are fluid, unlike the freeways in the physical world. Our own choices and other peoples¿ choices influence the available paths and change the map constantly.

Destiny, in my humble opinion, is the plan we made ourselves before coming to this world. Each of us have a couple of non-negotiable destinies, experiences we absolutely must have. In my personal life, leaving my home country and immigrating to the USA was one of my destiny. In other words, my soul chose to be born in a different country to be born in so that I¿ll have a unique perspective when I grow up and come to the country I was meant to live as an adult. One of my life lesson is integration.

The role of free will
It¿s critical to remember the role of free will when we think about destiny. We all have free will. Even if you were born to a slave-like situation, you have your free will. Free will is the best gift God gave us.

Back to my analogy of life as a journey, we can use our free will to decide how to get to the destination. In fact, we are expected to exercise our free will to choose our path. We are not slaves nor order-takers. We are free souls and by taking the responsibility to choose our own path in our journey, we grow.

And just like in real life road trip, there are many paths to the same destination. From where I live to get to Seattle, taking I-5 is probably the fastest and most popular path. But there are back roads if I want to enjoy the scenery in a more leisurely manner. Or I can drive up to Portland and then take a train or a plane.

And freeway may not be the fastest way to drive. It usually is, but there may be an accident on the way. Getting off the freeway to enjoy a scenic lunch may prove to be the best option.

So, even if going to Seattle were my destiny (metaphorically speaking), there are plenty of rooms for my free will. We are not predestined to the details. If we were, we are like robots, and there is no room for our learning and growth. No, this universe is not designed that way. This is where we grow through trials and errors.

God is not a mean micro-manager who tells you what to do at every step. God loves you and gave you free will.

We chose our paths
It¿s also important to remember that we ourselves chose our destiny points. God, nor anyone else, handed over his plan for us. It all happened before we were incarnated, and we don¿t remember it very well because we received a ¿veil¿ when we were born, but still, it was you who chose your destiny.

I guess some people want to bark at this idea. You may be thinking, ¿I didn¿t choose this hard life. If I were to choose for myself, I would have chosen to be born in a nice family and set my destiny to be a famous rock star!¿

Well, becoming a rock star may or may not be your destiny. I don¿t know. But I do know that being born in a difficult family is not a show stopper to become a rock star. (Just check the bio of some celebs :) ) How you want to achieve this destiny, or whether you want to even start walking toward this place to begin with, is up to you.

Embrace your free will. Again, it¿s the most wonderful gift from God. Then you will know your destiny.

Replies: 58
1. Re: Are We Predestined in Life?
Oct 25, 2009 7:42 PM   |   In response to: akemigaine

Amen, sister, sing it loud and sing it clear! Now you can answer anything on this community.

2. Re: Are We Predestined in Life?
Oct 25, 2009 9:40 PM   |   In response to: pittypat53

Haha, I will take that as a compliment.
I'm not sure if I can answer "anything" but I do read soul records (called Akashic Records)>

Akemi

3. Re: Are We Predestined in Life?
Oct 26, 2009 5:55 AM   |   In response to: akemigaine

Hi Akemigaine,

You spell it out with great clarity. Yes we can all chose how we want to get to our final destination and freewill is indeed a precious gift of God and so we should use each moment in gratitude to God.

How interesting that you read the Akashic record. It is my understanding that the Akashic record has our karma from previous lives in it. When we know who we are, we instantly free ourselves of all karmic consequences from the past, but until we are free our freewill is bound up in karma.

Blessings, Yaani

4. Re: Are We Predestined in Life?
Oct 26, 2009 6:00 AM   |   In response to: akemigaine


I like this Akemi. My perception is very similar. The only thing I'd like to add is where you say 'This is where we grow through trials and errors' , my feeling is that has been a way of growth and that in this new Aquarian age we are opening more and more to learning with joy, grace and ease.

blessings Janni

5. Re: Are We Predestined in Life?
Oct 26, 2009 10:09 AM   |   In response to: luvnserv

Hi Yaani,

Thank you for your kind words.
Yes, I do Akashic Record Reading. If you are interested in how it works, you might enjoy my another article on Oprah, "2 Approaches to Heal Your Traumas from Past Lives"

Akemi

6. Re: Are We Predestined in Life?
Oct 26, 2009 10:19 AM   |   In response to: vivaever

Janni,

You are totally right. We can learn through both positive and negative learning experiences. Learning through trial and error, the tough way -- I also call it "learning by contrast" because we learn by going through the opposite of what we want to learn -- was the old way, and many of us are waking up to know we can learn through positive learning experiences.

I had a feeling when I wrote that part, but I went ahead because many people are still in the old way of learning. I think the shift from the old way of learning to the new delightful way of learning is individual. The Earth's shift is helping us all, but each of us still need to make that shift.

Akemi

7. Re: Are We Predestined in Life?
Oct 26, 2009 10:34 AM   |   In response to: luvnserv


When we know who we are, we instantly free ourselves of all karmic consequences from the past, but until we are free our freewill is bound up in karma.

Blessings, Yaani


I agree, Yaani, when we are free and when we know who we are, we become a messenger.

love ~ anje

8. Re: Are We Predestined in Life?
Oct 26, 2009 3:08 PM   |   In response to: akemigaine

My focus has been on enlightenment toward healing the planet.

The greatest service we can render to the planet is to wake up to the truth of who we are. And in that moment of enlightenment our Akashic slate is wiped clean and all karma is deleted. So this would be the approach I would recommend. No time is required, where as digging into past lives, could be an endless task. There are so many traumas just in this life, imagine if we took the traumas of say 20 lives, we could spend a whole life time healing our traumas. Or we can simply say, past is past and move on.

Blessings,
Yaani

9. Re: Are We Predestined in Life?
Oct 26, 2009 8:35 PM   |   In response to: akemigaine


Hi Akemi,

I've been putting some tips for 'Regaining the playfulness of the inner child ' on the Laughter for Life thread http://www.oprah.com/community/thread/103293

Enjoy :8}

10. Re: Are We Predestined in Life?
Oct 27, 2009 5:31 AM   |   In response to: anjeflow

Thanx Anje, Nice to see you :)

11. Re: Are We Predestined in Life?
Oct 27, 2009 1:44 PM   |   In response to: anjeflow

Hi Anje,

Thanks for stopping by. Nice to see you.

Akemi

12. Re: Are We Predestined in Life?
Oct 27, 2009 1:49 PM   |   In response to: luvnserv

Hi Yaani,

I agree. I certainly don't want to be spending the rest of my life digging and healing my past or past lives.
So if someone can simply stand up and be enlightened, I'm happy for them.
The catch is some people ignore their traumas and just believe they are enlightened. This doesn't work of course.

By the way, healing doesn't need to take enormous hours. It's instant, as you say. All it takes is to understand how the past is affecting us and intend to release them. And there are usually just handful of root causes, even though their effects may look like countless problems.
Short of just jumping up to enlightenment, I'd rather take care of my root issues rather than ignoring them.

Blessings,
Akemi

13. Re: Are We Predestined in Life?
Oct 27, 2009 1:50 PM   |   In response to: vivaever

Hi Janni,

I noticed :) I am following up on you.
Our inner child indeed knows what is best for us. I think the best advice there is to any question is "listen to your inner guide"

Love & Light,
Akemi

14. Re: Are We Predestined in Life?
Oct 27, 2009 2:57 PM   |   In response to: akemigaine


I am not sure , what you believe in as far as I guess a Faith or Religion .

But yes , I feel it is true , we make Choices and slow down , and even Stop the Plan of God for our life .

I am of the Christian faith , since I have seen Jesus in a Vision once . It's impossible not to believe When you have seen the reality with your eyes .

As I study , and the Holy Spirit shows me things , you learn how Choices affects your life .

Adam and Eve , made a Choice and it not only Changed their life , but everyone's life .

So our Choices , not only affect us , but people thousands of years into the future .

Every Word and deed we do , affects people .

If I look at my own life , I get depressed . I can see when I sinned , how God was removed from my life , and all the people around me , got cursed as well .

Life is very much like the Christmas Story of a Wonderful Life . We have a far Greater effect than what we really know .

We are like Farmers , in that we are Sowing in the land . One Tree planted today , can give seeds for thousands of years .

We are all Sowing something , and Changing people life's forever , by what we sow .

15. Re: Are We Predestined in Life?
Oct 27, 2009 9:25 PM   |   In response to: davidsflag

Hi david,

It's true that whatever you say or do affects the whole. Some people call it the butterfly effect -- a butterfly making air waves in Beijing can affect someone in NYC. And yes, now just now, but in all expanses of time. Because we are all interconnected and part of the whole.

I feel for you because I sense pain in your tone. Which is perplexing for me in a sense. You have seen the glory of God, you know you are connected to God. I live a quiet bliss with these experiences. God is love, and I know this not by some dogma but by direct understanding.

Blessings,
Akemi

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