Stress of my married life affects my unborn baby

kamvivi06
kamvivi06
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Posted on Apr 26, 2009 3:05 PM




Its been a sucessfull love marriage(though i thought it would be) seems to be meaningless now!! just after 6 months of my married life i feel totally lost somewhere.. It all started when i quit my night shift job before marriage as I thought it would distant the love & care towards my husband who is also in a night shift.It all went fine until i started to feel so lonely all night.he comes from office at morning ,Sleep the entire day,gets up in the evening & Start to office again .I know he cares for me . I could also understand the stress of his work ,but now my stress towards this tired & bored life style has reached its peak after i got pregnant .Now I feel completely tired of my loneliness and this attitude of my husband who spends most of the time with his cell phone and
Laptop.I even tried to explain my feelings(especially the expectations of a pregnant wife) ,he says he understands and wil change but its been nearly 2 months now that he his still the same.Due to the lack of love & care of the Man for whom i
gave up my breadwinning job , has now turned down myself.As a result i have given up my breakfast,Sleep & Peace though i know how important are these to my unborn Baby.I know im troubling my baby as well ,coz of my own stress towards this sort of a LIFE.Doctor has advised me not to travel for another 2 months and its already been a month since i never stepped out of my
house.Hope you can understand how it feels to be inside seeing the same four walls for over a month with unknown stress in ma mind.My hubby doesnt even sit aside to talk with me in the weekends which increases my temper and stress.I feel my body & mind is totally out of control and there is no one to share!! ......

What should i do to save my Baby & me as well.....???


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mc_delilah
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1. Re: Stress of my married life affects my unborn baby
Jun 18, 2009 5:24 AM   |   In response to: kamvivi06


I know and feel what you were going through. I've been through to that experience, 3 years ago when I was pregnant for my third child. It was a lonely journey of my pregnancy where my husband just took me forgranted. he just goes in and out of the house reasoning that he is doing our business. but then I know his other agenda's as well and it leads me to stress and depression. I don't want to eat. don't want to sleep. It makes me weak physically and emotionally. When I delivered my baby, I was hemmoraiged. My baby also had a conginetal disorder.

My advice to you is look for a close family of friend to talk with. The one who will listen to you, and then pour out all burdens. This can help you ease the stress. Think of your baby before yourself because it is not easy to have baby with disorder. You will have so many regret, you will think then, that if only I knew I just have to let all these hurts pass by.

So you still have time to go out of your house and find many ways to make you happy and comfortable. Don't rely your happiness with your husband cause it might come too late. he might realize that you need him when you no longer needed him. But then, try to tell him with what you are feeling and what you wanted him to do for you. Try to ask a little of his time to listen to you, if he doesn't go to your family because they are very much willing to listen to you no matter what. Don't risk the life of your baby. Be happy..... If your husband cannot see your worth, yet for sure your family and friends do and appreciated it as well.

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