Hi! I can't believe that I am actually talking about this. Well, I have a problem. My sex life with my husband could be better than it is. It's not him at all, it's me. I am about 35-40 lbs. overweight. I'm not fat, just a little to big for my comfort. I had my second child 10 years ago and I just can't get rid of my stomache. Therefore, I am very self conscience about my body. When my husband and I get intimate, I always wear a long t-shirt. He hates that. I just don't know what to do. I can't afford to go and get a tummy tuck, although that would be awesome, and I don't really know how to shop for healthy foods. Please help.

Hello, Im a 27 year old mother of 2. My new husband is 43. We are having trouble with our sex life. My problem is that it only takes litterly 3 minutes for him to ejaculate. Well it takes longer for me to get my clothes off. So i get nothing out of sex. I fake it every single time so that he wont feel like he is not good enough. Not one time have i had an orgasm during sex. And when he is done he rolls over and goes to sleep. He tries to hold back but it just dont work. We have tried the creams that make it less sensitive. but those just stop him from getting an eriction. So I am always in the mood. day and night. And when i suggest that we doing other things to let me have a orgasm. He gets offended and says then i did nothing for you if you are wanting another one. I have to wait for him to go to sleep so that I can get out my Viberator. All the while he is laying next to me snoring. It is very hard to achive an orgasm while the man i love is snoring right next to me. If by chance he does wake up he is like why cant you get enough. and then i stop. What can I do to help our sex lives. We where married on March 29th, 2008. but we have lived together for 5 years before we got marred. So i know its not that we are new and making love. And I know he is not tired of me already because we have always had this trouble. I know that sex is not every thing, What can i do to have a normal sex life with my husband with out him being offended. Please help. i am willing to try any thing.

I wish there was a show about sex starved wives. My husband doesn't crave or need sex as often as the steryotypical man.

Your awesome and why I say this is because your not afraid to own the problem. But at the same time are willing to search for the solution. That is a brave admission most would not go that far. Remember that Veggies are the best way to go the greener the better. Inquire about proteins that are also low in fat. No one needs more then 4 oz's. of protein at any sitting. Have one protein serving with three veggie serving make your plate colorful and have all eat what you eat. It would be healthy for all. Also would help Mom stay on course. I bet Dr. Oz has a book that could help with nutrition. So your meal planning day could go easier. This is the type of help we all need. The list of foods that we could take to the store that a Mom on a limited income. Lets face it we are all getting on that boat. But we just need that education to help find the foods that will help keep us all where we can be happy and healthy. You take care and keep asking those question we all need the answers too.

I hear you! I wrote in to the Oprah show as well. After doing research on the internet there is a ton of women out there who are sex starved but no one wants to talk about the frigid man. It's even worse when it's the man who doesn't want sex because of the stereotype. It makes the woman think for a second that maybe there is something wrong with her, even if there isn't!!!

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My wife asked me to tivo this show today,I ended up watching and have come away with a few thoughts.First let me say I am not a regular viewer of the show,work schedule and all.I am sitting here amazed and feeling so lucky to be so happy wit this wonderful woman I married 30 years ago.After hearing how so many young couples struggle with intimacy I can't help but wonder why.We met when we were very young,have been together since 1974.My feelings for Sandy have gotten stronger each year we have been together.Yes we struggled during the early years of raising our sons,same as a lot of people,sex sometimes took a back seat to family obligations.But we have always been able to keep our sex life exciting,and fresh.I think the fact we always had give and take,truly cared about pleasing each other,and just enjoyed each other all combine to our wonderful relationship.Now that we are middle aged Me 50,Sandy 39, I am more attracted to her than ever,she absolutely rocks my world on a daily basis,I see her as an incredibly sexy woman,she is sexier now to me than any other time in our entire marriage, a feeling that keeps getting stronger.I love her for not judging me as I am not perfect,a bit over weight,and not the gq type,but she loves me for the husband she married and always has.Just felt the need to say there are couples out here that are completely satisfied and content.

Meant to say Sandy is a very beautiful,49 years old.

First of all, thank you very much for show like that! It made me realized how LUCKY I am .I think I wasn't aware how great husband I had.He does all the right things in the bed and even before we get there.All the things Dr. Bergman talked about and even beyond considering that I am not always willing to have sex when he would like to.We have been together for 18 years married for 15 , have sex on average 2-4 times a week and I almost always had orgasm. In my entire sex life I faked orgasm maybe 5 times not more, and it was because I was tired and I just couldn't get to THAT POINT even though he worked me already for a while. I am a typical women who needs 20 min and he can be ready in 2 but he always makes sure that I am completly ready to have him in me and finish the act. That is probably why I don't have to fake anything I was the first sexual partner for my husband and the begining was rough trying to find the tune but we were always open about what we like or what we don't fill comfortable doing in the bed. The only thing I couldn't understand and I found answer on your show today is that my husband didn't want to cut the umbilical cord when I delivered my sons. He didn't even go down there to look while they were being born.It is strange considering that he is a doctor and he had seen deliveries before. It is not a pretty picture as Dr. Bergman says although the act of birth is beautiful. Some man are fine with seeing it. For some it may distort the image of women's genitals they have .We can fully understand why Shawn ( the man on your show) didn't want to perform oral sex any more. We think that your show is great.WE have alot of respect for the couples that come out and openly talk about their sex problems Solute to them all .I recomend your show to all my girlfriends and their husbands.That problem is HUGE . I see a lot of couples getting divorced for different reasons Sometimes is financial problems, sometimes affairs sometimes lack of comunication.In my oppinion it is lack of the good ,fulfilling sex on BOTH sides.If that part of your life works well than all other issues can be resolved.

With regards,

Marzena Grela

If men complain that their woman doesn't like sex then they should understand that they are probably lousy lovers. I think all great lovers should tell other males what they do to satisfy a woman. Women who are satisfied will actually WANT to have sex more often because they like orgasms as much as men. Whenever I hear that a wife is not interested in sex, my immediate thought is that the guy isn't doing it very well.

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I disagreed with Dr. Laura Berman when she said that you need to "schedule" sex. My fiance's ex-wife used to do this all the time and he hates the thought of I doing this. I have joked to him about this and he is very negative about this thought. But yet, I don't have sex enough. I try to engage, but he's always "tired". So, I don't bother, and I do have a toy. He bought me the toy, and he doesn't mind when I play with it. There are times when he knows that I am doing this and he isn't tired, then he gets excited. He also talks his garbage all day about having sex tonight. Tonight always comes and goes. There are times that I have thought about cheating, but I haven't - yet. Thank you.

i'm married 42 years and we had 38 years of fabulous, passionate, loving sex - my husband got sick and with all his medications he just lost all his desire - whether it was being scared or his meds it doesn't matter - i have a "magic wand" and i use it quite often and everytime i do it makes me feel good and sad at the same time.......i really miss our passion

I feel the same way. I have been begging for sex for at least 13 years. He always has an excuse, I didn't clean the house enough so he didn't have sex with me, then he was tired, he got hurt at work and was in pain, he is sick from all the pain relievers he takes and I have been thinking of cheating for years but haven't been unfaithful. This week my husband told me he didn't want sex with me because I am too fat. I was size 14 when we met and went to 20 when I got pregnant and 15 years later I'm still size 20. I have been eating to give my self some comfort. I thought If I get thin and he doesn't want me I will cheat so I eat some more. I cannot stop crying and he is mad at me for being upset. He has not apologized for withholding sex from me. He says if I loose weight then he will be like a normal husband and have sex with me but now I feel like that will be forcing him to have sex with me. I don't know what to do. I want sex but I won't feel comfortable taking my clothes off now. I have been crying for a few days now. I love him so much and can't understand why he wouldn't have told me 13-14 years ago if my size bothered him. I feel like how can he not want sex with me but then be seen in public with me?

Wow, I wish I had Tameka's problem!!!! Im not married, I have a boyfriend whom I love dearly, and I know loves me, however, he has had bad experiences with Oral sex and with kissing in general.... and i am a verypassionate kissy feeling type person....

HEY, I WOULD LIKE TO KNOW ONE THING. HOW DO U HAVE SEX WHEN YOU HAVE HAD EVERYTHING TAKEN OUT OF YOUR BODY?

I FEEL LIKE I AM NOT A WOMAN ANY MORE SINCE I HAD A HYSTERMAIGHY I FEEL LIKE I CAN'T MAKE MY HUSBAND HAPPY ANYMORE. wHEN WE DO HAVE SEX IT IS THE BEST THING EVER. AND WE DO HAVE ORAL SEX. THIS IS NOT EMBARRASSING TO ME. I JUST NEED SOME HELP TO FIGURE THIS OUT. HELP ME IF YOU CAN. THANKS

PENNY PUCKETT

MONROE, GEORGIA.