Brittney Spears

Posted on Jan 6, 2008 1:09 PM

Okay, first off, I am not a "Britney Fan". And nor am a "Britney Hater". I am too old to be a fan, perhaps, and too mature to be a hater.

Britney is a young woman who has been manipulated, used and exploited in every way possible by every single person in her life with the only exclusion being her own children. Britney is no longer seen by those close to her as person but rather a machine, a money machine, they take what they need and then move on, they move into her life only when they need more money. It is pathetic! There should be a crime against the way she is treated by everyone.

Take a good look at her before Mr.Mommy Rap entered the picture. She was beautiful, healthy had her wits about her etc. The way she is now is POST Federline people!! And we think it is okay for him to take care of these kids, look at him. The guy is a loser, he used Britney, he would be an absolute NOBODY without her, he was unable to succeed even with her help, he is a rapper wanna be. He is a no talent. Britney has talent, she has charisma and she has sex appeal (although overly exploited). I would like to see the people who call themselves photographers follow him around and stalk him and take a picture of every move he makes, his underwear always show, he is gross, my God why does no one see this. Who has paid off these judges for God sake, to give this man these children. If you took my kids and gave them to him I would go freaking balistic, absolutely I would!

Who called the police? And what went on before the police got there, what made her so upset, nothing, I think not! I think people instigate trouble then call in the photogs and the police etc.. and I am sure someone is getting a cut for doing so. Everyone is making a buck and that is sick people.

Brittney is a young woman, who loves her children, she was pushed into this world at a very impressionable age by a mother who I feel profitted from her exploitation. Kevin, her mom, Jamie all of them are trying very hard to turn the spotlight onto themselves, they want the money they want the fame, they want to destroy this woman who they are so financially dependent on, they want her destroyed and they want to profit. If you believe that these people care for her you are mistaken, it is quite obvious that they don't and never did. Britney needs help to disconnect from all of them. Oh and they are going to go on Dr. Phil to discuss this, and they move it up a day...yeah let's get our 15 more minutes before she commits suicide, get us on the air right away, the ratings will soar! I used to like Dr. Phil, somewhat, didn't always agree with him but respected him but recently he has become more of a showman, THE Jerry Springer of family therapy and I have lost all respect for this man and his wife, well, what does she do?

As far as jumping to diagnose Britney with a mental illness. We need to be very careful in doing that to people. It is the trend of the century, slap a mental illness label on them. Truth is in so many cases that we have forgot about human emotion, normal human emotion, we need to get upset, we need to get angry, we need to scream and cry and the whole range of emotions. This young woman has been through hell and back in her short life, she has been denied every human decency that most of us take for granted. For God sake can she even wipe her va-JJ without someone watching and taking pics!
For any mother (a loving mother) to have her children taken away from her is devastating and should evoke an array of emotions, we should worry if it does not. If Britney had gone to court and the custody battle would have been worked out the first day so many people, thousands literally would have lost money. We need to as a society look at that. This is ONE young woman, ONE young mother and no matter how much money she has she can not control all of this nor can she be responsible for all of it. NO WAY! We need to wake up and EVERY SINGLE ONE OF US (myself included) need to help this crap end.

I check the news, the celebrity news, because I am concerned but at the same time every time I click I am supporting this very thing that I hate, that is wrong that is DESTROYING LIFES.

I admired Princess Diana, I admired Anna Nicole (even with her problems) and it is OUR fault they are gone... PERIOD!!

Our celebrities deserve human rights and to not be stalked and have their privacy constantly invaded. Why the hell, why in Gods name are photographers allowed to see film inside of an ambulance, where are the cops then? These photogs need to be locked up, what the hell is wrong with them, these people hunt celebrities, that is sick. They follow them waiting for something to happen, the more devastating the better, that is cause for concern if you ask me. What kind of people are these poparazzi (sp?), what is there profile, my god they are wacked!

Here is what I think should happen:

I think Dr. Phil should butt out, if he wants to help do so off the air as a professional in a non-rating-getting way.
I think we should all start boycotting all these celebrity mags, rags, shows, etc. that focus on the negative. Even the number one entertainment show, my God they practically walked Anna Nicole into her grave!

I think Julia Roberts should help Britney, maybe as a objective outsider, take Britney away from all these people, let her get clear. Show her some love, help her get on track so that she can regain custody. She will never be able to do that with a mental illness label, she is not mentally ill and that label will destroy her and her children.

I think her mother should undergo a mental evaluation, what kind of mother subjects her daughters to this stuff. Look how she has changed since Britney was young. Look how Britney's money has changed them all.

Speaking of Britneys money, she needs someone to handle her money and make sure it will still be there when she gets through this. Make sure that her kids will have something after pappa rappa is done with them and kicks them to the curb.

I think for once all the entertainment shows should take the high road and do what they can to inspire people to support celebrities at hard times rather than exploit them. What a world it would be. How do those people sleep at night, I mean I love ya Mark Steines but how do you sleep? Your living is made on the misery of others, the more miserable they are the higher the ratings and presumably the higher your earnings. These shows used to make you want to be famous, want to succeed, want to have it all, now they make you want to become a hermit.

Oprah, what about you? You are the older the wiser, the one who has managed to avoid most of these pitfalls, but then again, you were well into adulthood when you became a celebrity. What can you do to help Britney? I know she is not starving in Africa but she does need help, she does. The thought that people die before our eyes is killing me.

Close your eyes and think of a new tomorrow when the headlines read: BRITNEY is WELL - Britney with her Babies at the Park - BRitney owes her life to..... - Britneys Babies Grown UP and Thankful to the ONE who saved thier MOM..................what if? What if when someone "cried for help" they actually got help?

My heart goes out to Britney and I hope she is okay, I really do, no one deserves, NO ONE deserves this. I hope she makes it through and one day looks back on all this as just a bad memory. I hope she gets well. I hope for once that she is not destroyed by the MEDIA!!!!!!!!!

I think also this is a feminist issue. Why is no one following young male actors around every where they go? Surely they go clubbing? Are we out to destroy every successful female. No one complains so much when young guys make oodles of money, in fact I can't even tell you how much any young male singer or actor makes, don't recall it ever being brought up?

Please say a prayer for this young woman, mother. We know better so let's do better!
Replies: 10
1. Re: Brittney Spears
Jan 6, 2008 1:32 PM   |   In response to: noname@inn

You have GOT to be kidding me.. Loving mother??? She has put herself in the public eye with her most embarrasing moments. Not that I'm a K-Fed fan, but I'd rather see underwear hanging out of pants than a va-JJ getting in a car for the world to see. She has made her own choices since she gave birth, I guess you're one of the blame everything on the world people that doesn't include taking responsibility for your own actions. She doesn't deserve to have baby dolls much less raise children. If she was a loving mother, she would have acted accordingly a long time ago. She has had too many opportunities to turn herself around. The fact that she doesn't have the common descency to respect her role as a mother shows that the decision made to take her kids was the very best decision. Until she gets it together, she doesn't deserve those children. Remember, it's choice..

2. Re: Brittney Spears
Jan 6, 2008 3:39 PM   |   In response to: takers24@c

I agree <<<>>>>>There is a time for everything and this young girl needs help and lots of prayer,I get upset when I here about it on the news ,so sad ,Life is to short and when she dose get older and looks back only she has to answer to her higher power. as do we all.........I just am so tired of hearing about it.....

3. Re: Brittney Spears
Jan 6, 2008 4:01 PM   |   In response to: campbellt7

Phew, quite a mouthful about celebrities - from what I can gather these child prodigies pushed into acting by ambitious parents always pay for it in later life. The high profile of publicity- seeking actors attracts attention for the right reasons in the beginning to build a power base called "fame". But when their private lives become public (how to keep it private is a difficult call) then suddenly people must butt out. Sadly human nature tends to be ghoulish. I agree that the paparazzi are pests, but the entire matter stems from child abuse. Children need to be kept out of the limelight until they can cope with the attention of the media. Why do the acting fraternity never learn. Laws should be correctly in place to avoid exploitation of children. So the public voice should not condemn Brittany, but look to themselves to ask why this real life tragedy is taking place. Give her a break. She has made bad choices for all the wrong reasons based on her perception of adults behaving badly. A sad indictment of the state of human nature and the lack of responsibilty by money- grabbing people. Pray for her recovery and do not condemn her. A moth is always attracted to a flame....and the result is disastrous.

4. Re: Brittney Spears
Jan 6, 2008 4:32 PM   |   In response to: noname@inn

Noname@inn,
Not only does Britney need help, but you need it as well. I don't feel sorry for her at all. I can't believe that you think her children are better off with her. No one forced her to drink or do drugs. That was her choice. I'm no saint, but I'm not gonna put myself in a position where I would lose custody of my children. She's no longer a teenager, she's an adult for goodness sakes! Stop blaming her mother and others for her downfall. There's a lot of us who haven't had a perfect childhood. My mom was very abusive and the only thing she wants from me is money. I haven't let this ruin me. Stop making excuses for her, she's a big girl.

JAYZ23

5. Re: Brittney Spears
Jan 6, 2008 8:19 PM   |   In response to: jayz23

I feel sorry for anyone who is in need of sympathy.

I am a compassionate person not someone needing help, perhaps you should look closer in your own mirror.

Britney needs help, she has been abused, she needs help to fix her life, she can not do it on her own. And you can not compare her to anyone as she is uniquely abused by the world.

Even "big girls" need compassion and concern, I feel sorry for you.

You can not own up to your part in it, she is not solely responsible here.

6. Re: Brittney Spears
Jan 6, 2008 8:23 PM   |   In response to: takers24@c

Nope, not kidding.

Every mother deserves a chance to be with her children as well as every child deserves to be with thier mother.

It needs to be under healthy circumstances for all concerned, I am not contesting that. But she needs the opportunity and the help in order to do that.

I want good things for Britney and her children as I do for any person and there is nothing wrong with that.

7. Re: Brittney Spears
Jan 7, 2008 2:28 PM   |   In response to: noname@inn


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8. Re: Brittney Spears
Jan 7, 2008 6:48 PM   |   In response to: noname@inn

Here, here, to you on all points, as I too am not a Brittney fan but that is not to say I do not listen to her music from time to time. My message, it to add a few words of my own as a woman of mental and domestic abuse in a foreign country and coming from a dysfunctional family, and where our actions and reactions of life situations can play a role if we had no positive role models to learn from growing up.

My past and still softer view, is that we cannot allow our past to dictate our future, and with those words I would watch Oprah, where she would have women appearing from abused marriage backgrounds of one form or another. When I would view and hear these abused women, I thought their behavior was weak and shallow, using their pasts as an excuse for allowing the situations to esculate and not getting out. Instead, what should have been noticed these woman's courage to stand up and say mistakes are okay, I did a good job getting out with my pride intact and start life a new. Surely, going on my own case, these women's accomplishments in the majority but maybe not all cases were done with the help of a few or many close people in their lives whether that may be friends, family and or the outside.

Moving on, regarding Brittney's ex, yes why is the media not watching his actions? On New Year's Eve he is seen with Paris Hilton whose actions at times are more questionable than anything Brittney Spear's has ever done, and when Brittney was hanging out with her she was condemned but when the opposite occured with her ex nothing is said, why? Is this not double standard by the press? This man has children with another woman, has he ever paid child support payments for those children prior to meeting Brittney or since? What kind of father was and is he to those children? Maybe, the media should stop and reflect on their behaviour, and do some real background digging on the ex-husband of Brittney Spear, before commenting any further on her life and actions.

Brittney, it appears does not know who her friends are, and as for her family they are clearly dysfunctional themselves, and they have no business at all commenting on her life either personally or professionally. With love, Britteny should you read my message, take some time out for yourself, call up one of your friends with a beautiful isolated island where the media and the dysfunctional people around you cannot reach you, regroup, sit and do nothing, watch tv, listen to music and read some self-help books there are some great ones out there. Consult and find a great mental doctor, I was really blessed, that when my life was in my first and only major crisis to date and with great determination the last, a wonderful doctor was inserted into my life, like a calling from Buddha or God. Seeing a mental doctor does not mean you are crazy, infact, in means you are saner than all the rest of the people around you, because you are able to go out and seek other forms of ways to address the issues that are happening in your life, that the media is not allowing you the peace to do yourself. There are some great doctors out there, and if you have a close friend you really can trust, confide in them and ask them to do some research on this point. If you do not, one person I believe you could call and trust is, Elton John, though we have never met, he has always come across in public when speaking of others in his life with respect and or not at all, out of respect for their privacy. Truly, he appears honest, his life and actions reflect this, and he has no reason to break your confidence, just stay away from that Dr. Phil.

This is the first time for me to write on one these public chat lines, but my outrage at Dr. Phil, a man I have never cared for, an oversized, self-righteous bag of wind. Oprah is this amazing woman, and it is hard to understand what she sees in this man as a professional, his ethics from the first time I saw him lacked, just so opposite of Ms. Winphrey. And this point was proved most clearly with Brittney Spears, case. How could this Dr. Phil (A LINCENSED DOCTOR BONDED BY A LEGAL MEDICAL CODE OF ETHICS), go to the public media without Britany's written consent and discuss any type of details including that he met with her. UNETHICAL! THE AMA, should be sitting and reviewing the actions of this Dr. Phil (DOCTOR AND NOT AS THE FRIEND OF OPRAH WINPHREY)

Ms. Winphrey, you are an amazing woman, I have only admiration for you, and if you read this too, maybe you could help Brittney and keep Dr. Phil away from this situation.

Good luck Brittney, remember you are a woman with talent and no one can take that away from you.

9. Re: Brittney Spears
Jan 7, 2008 7:06 PM   |   In response to: ashleysama

When I wrote about Dr. Phil going to the media "I wish to use the word "allegedly" when Brittney Spears did not give him consent to go to the media." In which case, if this is case, I still stand by the statement the AMA, should investigate if any medical ethics were broken by this doctor.

Another point, we should never judge others and how they deal or there lack of it, because learning this hard lesson first hand, until you walk in those shoes you really do not know.

You can come from a bad background, but had great influence from the outside of your family enviroment that allowed you to come an amazing and exceptional person, for others those same opportunities may not have existed.

We do not know what has triggered Brittney's actions and reactions off, and we may never know and that is okay, she is a human being entitled to her right to mistakes and privacy whether she is a public figure or not. Remember she is mortal, lives, eats and breathes just like the rest of us.

10. Re: Brittney Spears
Jan 23, 2008 11:44 PM   |   In response to: eveduval

i totally agree with you about exploiting children. this is exactly what i think. everyone can easily point out all of brittneys flaws, but HELLO how do you think she got that way. she is lost and has had a whirlwind of events and has no support. i also agree with the other comment about a cry for help. I also wish someone would step in and this is a feminist issue as well. You all have hit it! Who does follow the men around and take pics of them sleeping around or not taking proper care of their children. No one. women are supposed to do everything and do it right. she needs help. she is not a psycho - she just needs help and it is the result of her life. think about it for a minute, all of you who are so quick to judge.

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