Hi,

I keep forgetting I am 38 now. And yes, it is starting to scre me that I am aging and that I am all of a sudden THIS OLD! My body hurts, I am gaining weight, was 115 in my 20's (worked out) now I'm hovering at 160!! I don 't feel like working out like I used to. I have no get up and go.

But sometimes, I sit back and think WAIT, I am only 38, I'm not even 40! I'm not even 50 , not near 60 and no where near 70! When ever I think about that, it makes me feel so much younger!!

I do have to say, that I fear feeling older as all of my elders and my parents pass on some day.

Honestly, I try not to think about it too much. I just went to the doctor for a check up. My blood tests revealed some minor things that are preventable, so I know, besides losing weight and doing other things I need to do, I will fell MUCH better!!

Please, just try to enjoy your life now, instead of thinking about WAY down the road. honestly, I have started planning for that time a little, but just a little, it makes me a little crazy too.

Take care!! Enjoy your youngness!!! (I am too)

I know exactly how you feel... I've just turned 39 years old and I can not believe it!!!! I usually have crying spells. (I'm having one right now, while I'm at work) I don't know how to cope with getting older...I don't know if it's my age or my accomplishments. But I am not happy.... and it sems as though life is going on without me.... Am I were I should be at this age???? According to society, I should have a great career, husband and children.... Well, I am single, childless and my job is O.K..... Yesterday I went to church with my mother and the sermon was on "Friendship with Christ"... later that evening I was extremely depressed but I didn't have time to cry because 3 of my friends called me out of the blue. Although I tried to get off the phone with them I couldn't. By the time I finished talking with the third friend, I was tired and went to bed.....divine intervention.... I don't know what would have happened that evening if I had not received those calls.... Spirituality and prayer will help us through.......The tears are rolling down too fast..... I have to go.....

I am 38, married with 3 kids (14,11,10). Last night I found 3 gray hairs on my head. I thought I would die. But I didn't. I woke up this morning. Growing up I always fancied myself as being someone who would age gracefully and not worry about it. That was until I found those gray hairs last night. Now all of a sudden I feel old.

sharonchls ... just 3 gray hairs? Oh to be so lucky. I will be 33 in December, have a 10 year old, and have had gray hair since my mid-20s. And at this point it is streaking in silver! Do I feel old? Physically .. some days a little more tired than 5 years ago. Mentally ... still feel like I'm 16.

Just think of instead of trouble looking. Think of getting better with age. I will be 40 soon. I am not loking ahead but being gratful to be alive. Just go to any Hospital or past a xrouple of grave yard than you will realize that it better be alive, healthy. and well than dead. I gaurentee this will help you say Thank you Lord for being alive instead of trouble looking ahead. Alot of people are not as bless to live as long as we have.:p

Hi

I am 32 a mum of three (9,11 & 14) and still look like 22 and feel like 50 already.I started my life way to young and try to make the best of any day. I have trouble looking ahead, I cannot see myself sitting old and gray.

Your age has nothing to do with how you feel. Every single day in your life is important. Not everyone has the opportunity to look at their lives, be thankful that you all have. The future is about change and will alter every day, the decisions that you make in life create that future. Bear in mind that the thoughts and decisions of every single person in this world will also impact at some time in your future. There is no point in living in your past that's over and done with. Learn from it, live today and enjoy your future.

Hi, I just turned 30 and although I look much younger that just doesn't seem to help. I think i'm honestly more upset about the fact that I have reached this age and done nothing positive with my life. All the messages up here are so much help........thanks everyone!

I started getting the gray hair at 25!! But Ive been dying my hair since I was 18!! LOL!!! I think it sucks to get old - after looking in the mirror and seeing the wrinkles, having people call me by my last name or madam which is something I REALLY HATE!!! ( it makes me feel like I am 100 years old)- or when people who are in their 20's say "when I get your age...." or act like something you say is old and outdated or you drive too slow (even though I usually am 10 over the speed limit)...but people still look at you with dirty looks and cut you off on the freeway anyway... Now Reality is: I start to think about the conservative shoes that I buy that are cheap and confortable, the pants that are comfortable, the tops that were confortable. I dye my own hair now...I buy stuff that is affordable in cash no credit cards... Old reality is: I used to buy uncomfortable shoes (fall in the snow)...throw my back out for the look, wear uncomfortable clothes.. I dont spend allot of money on my hair now...because I think they charge too much for it...maybe this is getting smarter maybe I am getting old... But when I look at the people both men and women in the 20's I hear some of the stuff that comes out of their mouth their tormented life, how they drive, their social graces (or lack of). I think somethings that come with age like knowing when to speak up and be quiet, my experience in work, knowing what I like and don't like and not wasting time shopping or doing things, what I will put up with in friends, boyfriends etc...having more focus on things then I ever did, as well as being wiser with money and resources...a growing affection for education again...like never before... What age does for me and why its so valuable is that you know yourself because you have been in your skin along time and things that used to bug you or drive you nuts or picking your battles and knowing which ones you can win and wont win are invaluable. Im not happy about my looks but I would never NEVER go back to my 20's again..I was stupid and had low self esteem. THere is no amount of youth that is worth that...So in a way I can rejoice and be happy with these things...not all is lost in age and I am sick and tired of the media telling us we are worthless if we are not a desperate house wife looking person, young or that we are rejects if we have weight to lose...they need to get over it and accept the fact that the majority of the population isnt this way and that its normal to be in our ranges. Its like what Wayne Dyer says (not a direct quote but...) we are not our jobs body or our possessions...when you die you have none of these things and what Will Smith says another not direct quote "why would I want to buy things to impress other people I dont know or even like" you get the idea. Once people start to believe this then the credit cards wont be used as much (keep up with the jones) and more self love will happen, you will see less aggressive driving and nicer people...acceptence of self is the key and giving to others will take your mind off the gray the weight and make the world a better place. Lets set an example and make it happen. Lets show the world what we can do together!

Well, at 38 I realised that I'm pre-middle aged; I'm no longer able to party late and be refreshed the next day. If I'm out until 1 AM Saturday night (which is still occasional because of the field I'm in) then I'm still a wreck Monday.

But I love being in my late 30s, in many ways: I'm old enough I've been around the block; young enough for another spin. It's GREAT. I feel much wiser, more centred, and calm; yet I'm still a babe!

Renew your spirituality, if that will give you the comfort and guidance you need.

But there should be a movement where we stop DEPLORING. Deploring our bodies, our looks, our hair, our age. Every stage is wonderful for its own reason. Let's CELEBRATE THAT.

Good luck.

Yes, yes, yes. I struggle with it too (I just had my 40th birthday) and this society is crazy, isn't it? Stop looking at the tabloids. They are unmerciful to people and concentrate on the wrong things. I am reminded continually by my older sister (and life-long mentor) to keep in the word. Stay close to God by reading His word and see what the bible has to say about worry and anxiety. Even the birds in the sky do not worry about where they will get their next meal. Do not worry a single day..., etc. It's there. We should be celebrating. I had a rough birthday this year and then it dawned on me...how would I feel if my children said, "Ughhhh....another birthday. I'm so depressed."? God, our father and creator, must be sad when he hears us do that. He does not regret a single day for that any of us are alive. We are all uniquely created and uniquely loved and He has a plan for all of us. If you believe in eternity, then that means that this is the caterpillar stage of our butterfly lives! Find a good church and stay close to Him through prayer, fellowship wih others, and read His book on a regular basis. I hope this helps.

I am right behind you. I am 37 and I can't help to think about it. It seems the older we get the faster its going. I start getting that feeling in the pit of my stomach and try to start thinking of something else. I just started a business and its keeping me busy. Your not alone I'm sure many feel the same.