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Apr 11, 2008 12:55 PM by
rob347in
Jamie Lee Curtis
Apr 7, 2008 5:11 PM
In the interview whith Jamie Lee, made the comment that mother's did not like a particular game because the children had tantrums and thus the game was modified. No wonder our childern come apart in the face of adversity! If they expect the world to change the rules just because they are upset. Get real people we are protecting our kids too much. How can we learn to cope with life with its up and downs, if we have not been given the proper tools to deal as children. LIfe Is not fair so the sooner our kids learn that they can learn to adjust without becoming unraveled! You have to fall down a couple of times before you lean to walk...are we going to wrap our childern so tightly in our protectiveness that we stangle them . Use sence and guild them through, don't avoid!
cgranie
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Re: Jamie Lee Curtis Apr 8, 2008 3:28 AM
Right on! 
I would LOVE to meet Jamie Lee and talk to her about raising kids. I raised my kids EXACTLY the way she did. I used words like "inappropriate behavior" and "unacceptable" with my then two year olds,now 20 and 25. I could take my children to any restaurant, any mall, any grocery store and they behaved beautifully,WHY? because I wouldn't accept any other behavior.They both misbehaved ONCE,they were told what they did wrong and they NEVER did it again. Many of my friends, even back in the 80's had no idea how to discipline their kids and many people today don't have a clue. Example: I was at a restaurant for my birthday, not a cheap place to eat, there was party in the next room so since all the tables were put together they had left over chairs and put them side by side against the wall across from our table. Two little kids who belonged to the party (IN THE NEXT ROOM!) jumped up on the chairs, ran across them and jumped down the other side, OVER and OVER again! Finally after a long time the father came over and I thought "THANK GOD!" he's come to escort them back to the party.....OH NO! He came to hold their hands to HELP them up the chair so they could ran across them. Are you Freakin' kidding me?Excuse me but what am I chopped liver? I'm paying good money for my birthday dinner and I have to be subjected to this? I finally asked the waiter to move us and I think the father overheard and finally took the kids away. AMEN! This is just one example of the hundreds of stories I could tell about parents who don't have a clue. Jamie, I'm dying to read your new book even though I have no little ones to read it to. How would you like to co-write a book to teenagers? With peer pressure, trying to deal with today's society AND having parents who may or may not have done their jobs I think teenagers need some guidance. I've made some mistakes but I must have done something right because I have two daughters who have self esteem,who are responsible and motivated. And my kids say that I actually could have been harder on them ,they welcomed the discipline. Are you listening parents,your kids want you to teach them the difference betwen right and wrong. And by the way, instead of taking your kids to a fancy restaurant how about Chucky Cheese?
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Re: Jamie Lee Curtis Apr 10, 2008 4:42 AM
in response to: rob347in
Yes, you make very good points. I think I can offer one theory: parents who come from abusive homes want so desperately not to be abusive that they go overboard. Also, they never were parented themselves so they have no idea how to parent a child. Child abuse and neglect is our dirty little secret and until people can talk about this out loud problems like this will continue.
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Re: Jamie Lee Curtis Apr 10, 2008 8:26 PM
Do you know if it is really true that they changed the game the way Jamie Lee Curtis said it was changed? That comment intrigues me but I would love to know if it really has been changed. Any thoughts?
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Re: Jamie Lee Curtis Apr 11, 2008 12:55 PM
in response to: sgoskie
I really wouldn't put it pass anyone to change the game. Parents today are more concerned with their children "looking good' then they are with teaching them what the real world is all about so they can grow up to really "be good people". Children will make mistakes, children WILL fail,it's human nature and because of these bumps in the road they will learn and grow but if we "pad the walls" and teach them that the world is a perfect place and should have perfect people in it, they are in for a rude awakening. My youngest daughter, now 20, had a difficult time taking tests starting way back in grammar school. I never made excuses for her, I taught her she had to figure out a way to do the best that she could. Her best friend had a similar problem. Her mother had her "classified" so she took take as long as she wanted to take a test and there was always an excuse made for her inefficiencies. My daughter decided if it took the average kid two hours to study to get an A she would spend 6 hours studying. It was very hard for her especially because she is not your typical bookworm( no offense) she was popular ( nominated for Homecoming Queen,Student Body Secretary her Senior year of high school and had a part time job all through school ( and still does now in college). BUT because I did not pad her walls,she had the task of figuring out what it took for HER to succeed and she challenged herself by taking Honors and AP classes all throughout high school. Just yesterday she was accepted as a member of the National Scholars Honor Society ( Magna Cum Laude). Her friend's mom is STILL making excuses for her daughter and she had yet to find her way in the world at age 22. I also never helped my children with their homework. Many may find this terrible but my thought was that it was their homework not mine, I did my homework years ago. Homework does not have to be perfect, it's a practice thing so why not have your kids "try" it and if they don't understand it,it can be discussed the next day. If my kids had a question about their homework of course I would answer it but I would NOT do their homework with them. It must have worked because my daughter is very responsible and self motivated.
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