I think the first thing you have to do is start realizing that other people's opinions dont matter. They are just words directed at you from someone who doesn't have the capacity to see more of you than just the exterior. Everyone has beauty and the more you believe its in you it will shine through, what matters most is how you feel about yourself not what someone says you are there are many degrees of beauty and I truly believe you work with what you have. Some have been blessed with amazing beauty and some not but its how we define beauty we are who we are and if you didn't have you where would you be. Cherish your good qualities, your talents and how you are as a person be grateful for your life and look in the mirror and love you for who you are, when you can let go of other people's opinions and truly build yours you will see your beauty and feel good. It is so true that it comes from the inside that is where everything begins, we are all unique start working on believing it.
Kim

reggay,

How many times have we heard, "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" or "one man's trash is another man's treasure"?

If you look are various home decorating magazines, programs, photographs (and any other forms of media) for different regions, social statuses, religious upbringings (to name a few) from around the world, tangible items are perceived differently depending on your reference point.

If you are from an old world aristocratic family with money, you may not see the beauty in a tribal leader's nomadic tent... Beauty is in the eye of the beholder...

If the aristocratic person's eye prefers refined old world goods, that is correct for him. If the nomadic leader is proud of the material, shape and form of his tent, that is correct for him.

Once you start comparing "mine" vs. "yours", you get into a one-upmanship battle and allow ego to get in the way.

You are in control of your life, others are not in control of your life. If you do not know their reference point, you will (always) be working to attain or maintain a goal that is not in alignment with your reference point.

If you come from country of tall, slender, blonde hair people... Your may only find beauty in people of that like structure. But then again, because you come from a country of tall, slender, blond people, you may have a greater appreciation for individuals who are short, more robust, with darker hair... It is all subjective, depending on each person you are speaking to and their reference point in life.

Their reference point will most likely not align with your reference point.

So, do not let others define if you are beautiful or not. If you know that you are beautiful, then that is your truth and that is the path you should follow..

Look at this from the fashion industry's perspective... One year a new trend is in and it is thought of as beautiful... As the calendar pages turn from that specific point in time (let's say, fashion year), the same item that was once considered beautiful is then identified as outdated, old and ugly... Let us not forget that when enough time passes by, the outdated ugly item becomes the trend once more and is beautiful (again).

Life... Personal perceptions of beauty are fickle like that...

"Unto thy own self be true"...

Just a thought...

Love and Light,

Cephra

Don't pay attention to those at school. I went through the same as a youngster but when you're in the adult world, people don't worry about things like that! Beauty ultimately comes from within. Trust GOD and yourself and you'll never look back!

Regards
Leigh-Ann

When I first read your message post... it really seemed like a 'joke, a trick question, a question to get a blog started"
and then I read it a second time... I thought what if this person is really serious... it sounds like a confusing matter the
way you 'worded your question, thought" in my opinion I feel very sad for you and anyone else in this mind thought ...
to have such "negativeness" brought upon you ... shame on ALL that made you feel this "confusion in your innocent life ...
regardless of your age... I can't really tell if you are speaking as a teenage (now) or in past tense (cruelty placed upon you) ...

let these negative thoughts go ... DO NOT GIVE ANYONE such negative control over you to feed that nonsense into our UNIVERSE ....

******* Please listen and remember ; BEAUTY IS IN THE " EYE OF THE BEHOLDER" **********

No one controls your ESSENCE (your deep inside belief) ... ONLY you control that... irregardless of what someone has said or "may"
say to you about your looks... IF IT DOES NOT AGREE WITH WHAT YOU FEEL ABOUT YOUR LOOKS AT THAT MOMENT ....
SMILE AND SAY ; I CANCEL THAT IN THE UNIVERSE ... I AM BETTER THAN THAT ... and not think about that which said "negatively to you again
" YOU ARE IN CONTROL OF YOUR ESSENCE ....

***For the record:***

I AM BEAUTIFUL ... I feel BEAUTIFUL... I AM BEAUTIFUL ....

I have been told by many, many, many people that I AM BEAUTIFUL .... I have been told that I am not ONLY BEAUTIFUL
on the outside ... I am BEAUTIFUL on the inside... (my ESSENCE, the love and respect I have for life and people, the compassion,
the warm smile, the helping hand, the LOVE of God ) You may see me after reading this and say ... she / he isn't BEAUTIFUL ...
I would say to you... BEAUTY IS IN THE EYES OF THE BEHOLDER.... and I am the BEHOLDER of MY LIFE and SOUL ... so what
I say about me ... is the way it is ... and then you may see me and say she / he is just as BEAUTIFUL as she / he said ...

I would also say to you: BEAUTY IS IN THE EYE OF THE BEHOLDER.... I would say THANK YOU with either comment ....
because BEAUTY IS IN THE EYE OF THE BEHOLDER ... and I AM MY BEHOLDER... Be strong, be wise, do not let people ...
bring any negative in your life .... YOU ARE THE BEHOLDER ... of your LIFE / ESSENCE... What do you think about YOU ?
Look into the mirror ... and stare deep, be in silence... mediate ... and feel the BEAUTY, see the BEAUTY, think of ALL the
good you have to offer and have given whether appreciated or not .... think of ALL that you have done for ANYONE ...
in the act of love... Feel the BEAUTY ... BEAUTY is skin deep ... " YOU A-R-E BEAUTIFUL..."

reggay wrote:How Can you think your beautiful, when people call you ugly, and other people call you pretty. like for me, in school. guys always ugly. and girls always call be beautiful or pretty, and guys from other country's or other school's, say im soooo beautiful. im just so confused, on who i should believe. Am i beautiful? and if so. how can i believe that. i know deep inside i can believe im beautiful, i just need the steps on how
reggay wrote:How Can you think your beautiful, when people call you ugly, and other people call you pretty. like for me, in school. guys always ugly. and girls always call be beautiful or pretty, and guys from other country's or other school's, say im soooo beautiful. im just so confused, on who i should believe. Am i beautiful? and if so. how can i believe that. i know deep inside i can believe im beautiful, i just need the steps on how

Dear Reggay,

You said that you are confused on whom to believe. What you may find hardest in your life to deal with is the very thing that you are facing now. You must only believe one person and that is of course yourself. Outward beauty is extremely important to this world, and I know it is easy to get caught up in the value system of this world. I believe it is perfectly fine to nurture your own physical beauty. I hope however that you are also taking the time to acknowledge the eternal beauty that is within you. In writing this, I do not know if my words can truly reach you. I can only tell you what I know. Beauty is often that deepest part of you that you are most reluctant to reveal, it is the vulnerable part of you that you are most afraid of being rejected. Fear keeps many beautiful expressions locked up inside of people. My advice to you is to learn to become comfortable with your entire self, accept everything about yourself, even if you think it is not a flattering aspect. When you can learn to accept yourself attributes,flaws, and all; then you can truly accept and acknowledge the beauty in others. The one thing more wonderful than being beautiful, is witnessing it.

Sincerely,

Shaundra

Beauty comes from within ...whats on the outer shell is superficial and everyone has different taste on that anyhow.