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It's the Weigh you do the thin(g)s that you Do!

Posted on Sep 17, 2007 12:08 PM

Greetings to all! It is indeed Moon.

I did not want to lose (pun intended) one more moments so we can embark about a exciting adventuresome time.


To our alums Road, Sandy & Nancyfrye, I hope you can navigate back and find us here.


To Our newest joiners
: Bienvenue (Be welcome)! This is not going to be your usual format for why we are the way we are, but to understand and to be fuller people (no pun intended) as Langiappe Elles ( pronounced Land*YAP- Creole for a little extra something women). Substantial women, Extra-ordinary Women, full bodied Big City Women!


Words *DO* matter, so as we go about the business of physical, emotional & intellectual wellness, we will make concerted efforts to change the paradigms, to shift how we see ourselves in concert with the rest of the world. Make no mistake, we are in the business collectively to advocate, educate, mitigate, orchestrate & support one another as we take *A.I.M*

*A*ttitude
*I*magine
*M*otivate

one another, but we do so in the spirit of we are just fine where we are in the scheme of things. We will not "wait to exhale" but have extraordinary f*at*abulous lives right now, right at this moment and more so when we think things are the darkest. And not allow others to define the sum of our goodness.


Make no mistake, we are not here because we think that obesity is a happy experience. We know that to be to the contrary. There is a certain health factor when too much of a good thing is too much. We also recognize the societal pressure put upon large women that is punitive, demeaning and destructive, but we also know on some level that +"Shame does not bring about change"+. But we do not have to allow that into ourselves or into our personal space.


The mere fact of acknowledging that we have to release, not lose (if you lose something what is the first thing that you do?) is in itself a declaration of joy.

A release from *F.E.A.R*

*F*alse
*E*xpectations
*A*ppearing
*R*eal


Most of us won't even acknowledge that we indeed have 100 pounds to let go. It is part of the shaming punitive mindset of this world. 10, 15, 30 pounds is acceptable to say but not 100! But why?

I have 100 pounds to release. It did not get here overnight, nor will it make its final curtain call overnight. In fact, I had a serious matter over the summer that allowed the 10 pounds I had released this summer to make their return in a vengeance. I am 5'11 & weigh 302 pounds. I know my battle is a emotional one & part of that is from disallowing me from expressing justified righteous indignation,& anger that is appropriate & when appropriate.


But I have not disallowed myself from having a life, a career or passion for living. I have not always weighed in at 300 + And when think of when I was indeed 200 pounds lighter, people who acted shamefully toward me and I allowed them into my world still treated me badly. It wasn't bad all the time, there was sunshine & rain, fire & ice light & dark, but I had swallowed too much and it ate away at me (Pun not intended). This is the heaviest I've been in my life and this last 50 came beacuse of something that I suppressed/swallowed under the guise of nobility or being the "bigger" person when all it did was plain old hurt. And hurt badly. What was that comment that Dr. Angelou says about people's ability to peck you to death?

We cannot stop other people but we sure can do something about us by shifting the paradigms. The conditioning of the culture does not allow women let along fat women to have real legitimate feelings or to find good safe weighs to manage & be. It is tough work & a painful one, but I want to believe that we are serious about our own well being and may take 2 steps forward & one step back, but at least we *did* take 1 step forward!



I do not care for the words *"Get over it"* & its 1st cousin *"Move on"* particularly when it is presented with the rolling of the eyes or a voice of disdain. Or my other favorite is "We are only concern about your health" which is a thinly veiled sugar coated judgement. We are so hooked into instant gratification that if something that affects us monumentally we are suppose to just walk away with a smile within 3.5 seconds though it may take us 24 to process. Or longer. I find people use those terms to stand in judgement or they do not want to be bothered. Well then,*don't* (be bothered) & this will be one of the times I will say lose it..Lose them! .


My thoughts now are who gave the speaker the authority over when we are truly ready to get over, if there is such a thing?


I rather us see things in *"Let it Be"* And even that is a process.


So off we go. Share your thought large and small, triumphs & challenges. We would like to also welcome those who have successful released or the allies that which to support these women (and men) in their endeavors.

When our alums catch up with us you'll find the to be a delightful energetic forward thinking group of women.


One of the things that Sandy instituted was to list every day *5 Things that made you Smile Today* :DNo matter how small (or large) it is.


I add to that: List *"5 Things you like about yourself"*


Even if you have to repeat the same things over & over again, keep on saying it and live out loud!

MoonB-)

Replies: 1,572
316. Re: It's the Weigh you do the thin(g)s that you Do!
Feb 9, 2008 7:46 PM   |   In response to: moonhues

Hey Moon, definitely get the prisims!! When I had new doors put in last year. The front door is 1/2 glass and is full of prism cuts. when the sun comes thru each day my
whole living room and kitchen are full of blues,reds, & yellow. I love and the cats do
also. a definite must.


I bought a Magic Bullet knock off , called the elite for myself for Christmas. has the choppeer and blender blades and the glasses for mixing shakes.


My favorite is 1/2 a cup of Black Cherry yogurt, 1/2 cup of frozen strawberries, skim milk, a couple of ice chips, and a few almonds. Blend to smoothe.

I could eat one every nite, but that is my weekly treat.

All it really is , is my breakfast foods. so I could make one and have one split over a couple of days. hmmmmmmmmmm



I bought a throw for my recliner, as I am always cold in the evenings, Got on sale at

Walmart for only 5$ It is so warmmmm and it is going into the teens tonite so

I and my cat Pugnacious are enjoying it now.


Hope all of us have a Blessed Sunday and move forward on Journey with happiness.


Now I want a Shake yummmmmmmmmm DDDDDDDDDDDDDDd









317. Re: It's the Weigh you do the thin(g)s that you Do!
Feb 9, 2008 8:30 PM   |   In response to: ilene50d

Thanks for the shake recipe.

I love cold smooth things. The texture of it.

I won't rub it in to say we are in the mid 50's right now.

This evening I accomplised someting on my list and packed up all the art work securly to store in my studio and now I have no more boxes sitting on my porch for people to think I am moving out. Since my studio is te second to the last room to be painted I'll be able hopefully to get them to storage.They will actually be safer there since it is climate controlled. I wanted to wait until I pack up all the books, VHS 's I want to keep.

Sometime this summer I will have the movies, tv programs copoed to DVD's . I do look at them but I am giving a dresser to my daughter and that is where they are stored. I am making my home even lighter. I am a huge movie fan & I only record things that really matter to me. I also love books and I have read these but I do not toss my books out. Right now I have at least 2 dozen I have not had the time to read and I want to get to them so the remainer will go to storage.

One day I will have a real library where they will all go. I think this is the last stage of purging. I have gleaned the things I really use quite frequently and loveand they are in plain view. I am fortunate that I am not a clutter bunny and I tweaked once or twice a year so it won't becomeclutter. This time is because I am going to a new stage in my life and somethings don't fit any longer.

I do like the idea of the prisms for the very reason you speak of. My bathroom is the smallest room in my home. Its really small and the only window face the side of the house and too high up for anyone to peek in so I can leave curtains off. But its positioned to get a lot of sunlight so imagine the colors dancing on the floor. In this movie called My Funny Valentine. (The one with Lorreta Devine and Alfre Woodard in it) there is this lovely room wherethe Devine character makes all these home canned foods that are beautiful to the eye and well and the mouth and the way the camera captures the sunlight, mist colorful food is beautiful and that is what I want to evoke with the prisms.

Speaking of cats. My cat decided he wanted to be a outside cat and was apparently not happy being confined in the house. So I gave him his freedom yesterday. I did not want a inside/outside cat, though he comes a visits on the porch for a minute he really seems far more happy outside and has found a few pals. Strangely I came to discover I was not ready to care for a cat especially one that is as frisky as he was. He was 10 months old and needed a different enviroment. He won't be a stray, I will care for him but he seems to be happier outside then in.

Well I am off to bed.

CU

Maybe one day I will try again, but it will have to be a far more laid back cat.



318. Re: It's the Weigh you do the thin(g)s that you Do!
Feb 9, 2008 9:33 PM   |   In response to: moonhues

Moon, you need a cat like my two, they are 12 years old, but I have had them since they were 6 months old. they wandered in together.


If you try again, two makes each one more tame. Mine are so layed back I have to wake them up to make sure they are breathing sometimes.!!!!!


They are pure joy for me and constant company, but when I was in the hospital for
5 days, they were fine by themselves with just a friend to clean their litter and fill ther
water. I hope they live forever, i plan to live to be 120 and I want them with me.


Have a good nite Deeeeeeeeeeeeee Yawnnnnnnnnnnn

319. Re: It's the Weigh you do the thin(g)s that you Do!
Feb 9, 2008 10:24 PM   |   In response to: ilene50d

I really would like to have Himalayans. And I agree with you there needs to be two. I will search around. My cat who I called He, was very affectionate, but I think he was reaching cat puberty? Lol:^0

And wanted to do some running around. I don't mean tom catting he had a lot of energy and the first day here broke one of my favorite bowls. He was sweet just too active. Now this is one of the nights I am having trouble going to sleep, but I am going to read a little and then try again.

CU
Moon

320. Re: It's the Weigh you do the thin(g)s that you Do!
Feb 10, 2008 10:57 AM   |   In response to: ilene50d

Dee I wanted yo to know when I got up this orning I was looking out of the window ans saw "He" my cat wrestling with this tabby cat out from and realized he is something elkse. The tabby was much more easy going, holding its on but HE was relentless. He is definitely in his adolescence apparently and feeling his oats. Defintiely kitty is happeir now that he has companions. I think he has abandoned me. The people next door have at least 4 and my cat looks like the 5th one that died. They are both Tuxedo cats, so I guess he fits in. Sigh... I amok really. It is rather sweet to watch. I am taking a break from cleaning out my studio that has had things piled up since I closed my campus studio, so I am poutting things into place and delighting in rediscovering things and feeling like the creative juice can actually really flow unimpeded. That room is the sunniest in the house and I am going to paint itthe softer periwinkle of my bedroom with the Green Tea color of my office with pure white trim. It gets so much sun that I think the colors will cool it down and with the prisoms hanging in their it will be my room of whimsy. I am going to have scripted wall words of my poetry painted in their too. Hopefull next week I will have a handy man come in and set up the remaining grid storage cubes so I can see not only my tools of the trade but keep my eye simple. I had not had a opportunity to put the studio in order since closing the campus studio down as I had been ill off and on since Dec so things were just dumped in there and left. So when I feel impelled to write my Moon's Muses that I post here I can so be i my total enviroment with colors from the prisoms, the sun shining bright and a lighten load, pun intended.

321. Re: It's the Weigh you do the thin(g)s that you Do!
Feb 10, 2008 11:40 AM   |   In response to: moonhues

I felt in one of my first thoughts this morning to write to people who may be lurking or coming here for the first time to know what we are all about here.


Some of you will probably not want to weigh in on over 200 previous postings to know what we are about, though I suggest that you do at some point even if you do not feel impelled to contribute otherwise you'll miss out on Sandy's wonderful recipes and health tips, Road's creative ways of discovery ways to excercise, Dee's humor, Nancy finding her contributions to the world, Heather empowering herself to walk the talk in her covering wellness and my ramblings.


I can only speak for myself here.


When I write, i am not dispensing advice, but actually allowing one to wander through my thoughts as I seek to release. It is truly the weigh you do the thin(g)s you do. It is no sense to regurgitate what you have probably read in many books, coaches etc about the weight being symptomatic of deeper, sometimes complex issues. And we all have different ways of managing or refusing to manage those challenges, but ironically it led us to the same place.



We are weighed down and look for ways that are workable for us individually to lighten our load.



Some will agree with me, some will not. One may grab a kernel of something that they can use to formulate their own plan or find it is not workable. The main impetus is that we do something & that it is progressive that we do not expend undue energy & time pursuing the oh woe is me course. We know what that brings, more oh woe is me! :D



It you are really putting your money where your mouth is and not just talk about you want to lose weight and what's wrong with me, then this is the wrong place. I personally like to know what's right with you.


Without a doubt we will have those moments, (I've had many of them) and seperate from the fact it is not an attractive space to be in, its a waste of time. We have a wonderful world around us despite the perception of it being all doom & gloom & I for one do not want to get to the end of my days with regrets that I did not live life, not sitting and torturing myself with "I could have why didn't I if only I had lost the weight" et al.


Weight releasing is a process and as pounds do melt off whatever has been weighing your hear will come to the surface since and I don't have to be a rocket scientist to figure this out, but whatever you have been feeling that you have stuffed down with food will come to the surface like no body's business.


And who said we cannot have joy now while we are in the process? There seems to be this idea that when one works on this it has to be with martyrdom. sainthood, suffering and punishment. Shucks that's enough to make Richard Simmons walk away!:p



If you have not read it yet, I suggest you see on the O Boards an excerpt from Peter Walsh's book on If Clutter makes you Fat? The excerpt is absolutely delightful and now for sure I will buy the book. The comment he made about all the diet books you own creates clutter which weighs you down.

I do not own one single diet book. I have Dr. Oz's on your Body and I will add Peter Walsh's and that will be that, because they talk informative common sense, allows you the tools to create the freedom in devising your progress .



And then we have our very own Sandy here, who is the bomb in the kitchen and the gym.



I know Heather will share with us what she is learning in TOPS. And Dee, well humor is catching and emotional aerobics,plus her sharing the things she has learned . As a fellow co-patriot in the matter of Pepsi, girl I feel your pain :^0


I hope you new readers will go back in time and read all the others posts so we do not have to be redundant. And jump on board while we find our own unique, highly individualized Weigh to Grow!

Now how cool is that? B-)

Moon



322. Re: It's the Weigh you do the thin(g)s that you Do!
Feb 10, 2008 12:04 PM   |   In response to: moonhues

Redwing, Tamaradee,Rundafam, Crystal, Kutmaba and Kristen I hope you are moving ahead and working toward wellness in a oyful way. And if you are not doing it joyfully, you are at least doing something! Road I hope you've improved and Nancy give us a holler, sis! Moon

323. Re: It's the Weigh you do the thin(g)s that you Do!
Feb 10, 2008 1:01 PM   |   In response to: moonhues

Moon, I would love to add something witty or brilliant to what you just said, however
you said it so well, nothing left to describe this group you have allowed me the
pleasure to be a part of.


That is what this site is about to me the priviliege of enjoying others insites, being to
share a great day or moment, a shock(4#) and the amazing recovery of that shock.!!


Positive definitly lifts one up and negative will pull you down so fast. I have to like everyone
watch out for that, The Power of Positive Thinking is really true.



I got up this morning and found my sweet little 6# siamese cat Pugnacious laying accross
my cactus pot, with my 30 yr old cactus in it. she was sound asleep, sunngled nest to
these big stickers. It is amazing what a cat will do to ly in the sun.

She inspires and reminds me that sometimes you have to push past the sticky to get to
the warmth of the day.!!!

Welcome to any one new and to all reading come join Moon and friends on this amazing
Journey of lifestyle change in food and movement. D

324. Re: It's the Weigh you do the thin(g)s that you Do!
Feb 10, 2008 1:44 PM   |   In response to: ilene50d

"She inspires and reminds me that sometimes you have to push past the sticky to get to the warmth of the day"!

Now see we have inspirational kitties to encourage us !:D

I a going to take a short power nap. I am so sleepy & I am having a major blown out craving for KFC and ice cream. (Comfort food) I know it'll pass, but right now ...WHoo-Wee:^0

I know hat triggered it but while the glitch is over, I am left with the residual emotion and I am staying in the moment and just feeling the emotions and know it'll go away.

CU
Moon

325. Re: It's the Weigh you do the thin(g)s that you Do!
Feb 10, 2008 2:12 PM   |   In response to: moonhues

Hey Moon, while your in there taking your nap, try a few but crunches, that is
what I do when the craving hits. I lay on the bed and do some palatees and my
favorite the butt crunch, just tuck in and under , hold and release. ahhhhhhh


now i want Ice creme, power of suggestions, guess I have to go do those crunches.


you all have a peaceful fruit and nut filled snack day D

326. Re: It's the Weigh you do the thin(g)s that you Do!
Feb 10, 2008 9:00 PM   |   In response to: ilene50d

{color:#99cc00}The craving has pretty much pass, but it wouldn't take much more then a nudge right now, though.


Thank goodness there isn't any in the house. I've kept popsicles in the past which is less calories and satisfies the craving.


Thank goodness for that power nap which was only 20 minutes as it should. Revved me up because lo and behold I got a phone call from a previous client looking to come by to look at my art. It was a great visit and if all goes well i should have a nice commission in a week or so.

BTW Dee I am to pick up the prisms tomorrow morning since the painters won't be here until noon. But this is the kicker considering I've been talking about ice cream. In the same antique store was a depression glass double scoop ice cream bowl. Depression glass is not the economic 1930 stock market crash depression but a certain type of glass from the 1920's. The beauty of it is that it can barely hold perhaps the size of a melon ball scoop of ice cream. Its a double scooper because during that era you could have both vanilla & chocolate ice cream.



So what I will do is get it and if the craving hits again that will signal me to pull out the lovely glass scooper and have 2 melons size scoops of ice cream without a hugemongous amount of calories. I love it. I just now have to figure out how many calories a melon ball size scoop is.



Hey {color:#339966}Sandy do you have any ideas?


And by the way isn't the clock ticking on your son coming home?

Well i am off I have a busy morning in stored tomorrow.

Oh I forgot to say I have been doing morning stretches while still in bed. Ok so I will add crunches to.

327. Re: It's the Weigh you do the thin(g)s that you Do!
Feb 10, 2008 9:20 PM   |   In response to: moonhues

Hey moon My dad and step mom had antique shops and she collected depression
glass. she passed a year ago and her kids just held the auctions for her stuff.
You would have loved some of that stuff, just beautful things.


That dish sounds perfect, my problem would be making myslef use it, I find I just cant
put it in the house or I eat too much at once. I have not managed that control yet.


I know it will come in time.


You guys I have visited a couple of other sites and told them all about the marvelous
people you are and how inspiring and uplifting . I hope you all don't mind the
fact that i think you all are great.

Monday a great day the 1st day of the new week, Sunday is a day of rest.


Moon cong on the pc. Have fun in the antique store. I love them. ddd

328. Re: It's the Weigh you do the thin(g)s that you Do!
Feb 10, 2008 10:51 PM   |   In response to: ilene50d

Well alright we are coming into Sunday-Sunday! Whoo-Hoo!

I have more fun on Sunday-Sunday as it is the day I chose to extend a happiness by ridding my world of Monday's which used to be a drag for most people.


I discovered on Sunday blinds that I had forgotten about that were made by another artist of blocks of fancy art paper in a colorful window shades. Then of course I come to find out they have the colors of my will be tomorrow completely painted office.


{color:#99cc00}So on Sunday Sunday I am going to spend part of that day being creative and making designs and stamping so they can be hung in there. The four blinds cost me all of $5.00 several years ago. I knew sooner or later they would comt to some use. In fact they were in my transition box that if I put them away and did not use them within 6 months they were being donated. Which is why I had forgotten about them.

If it turns out not to be a good hang, then I will remove all the squares and use them individually in other projects.


Kinda of like life, eh? We can smooth and round out the rough edges and create a new shape. Pretty much like we are doing here. Taking away all the hard edges and rounding and softening the hardness that brought us to this place.

I also decide that an end chair will be slipcovered. When I got it for a song I like the lines of the chair and while I like the color, (sort of a mink sueded look) I did not want any more neutrals. I am bored to death with that and wanted things fresh and kicky with the roundness of sophistication.

Well what did I pull out of my stash as I was cleaning my studio but a pair of drapes I found at the Goodwill for $3.00 with oversized graphic lily flower in white on a black background & it is just enough to make a slipcover.

So sometimes things come to us not in te package we expect. If we do not take a chance how did we know that the rounding of the edges may indeed bring us the reward we seek?

Sometimes we have to wait, be still and let things be.

Here's to a great Sunday-Sunday and now I am truly heading to bed Whoo-Hoo

Moon



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329. Re: It's the Weigh you do the thin(g)s that you Do!
Feb 11, 2008 2:45 PM   |   In response to: moonhues

Hello All!! Yes Ms. Moon the clock is ticking. All praises to God my baby is finally out of Baghdad and in Kuwait (still not the best place to be, but better than Iraq). You don't know what a relief that is. It will still be a while before he gets home but just knowing he is out of that country is a great relief. Our oldest son, Anthony has a new lady friend and she's been around since Christmas and experienced some of our get togethers. She thought the 60's party was all out, we told her to hold on. You ain't seen a family get together till the ones we have when Casey is home. Moon I loved what you said to our newbies and those not quite ready to jump in yet. Thanks for your eloquence. Now about that serving size. Most reduced-fat ice creams, frozen yogurts, sherbets, and sorbets have approx 100-200 calories in a single standard ice-cream scoop. I'd suggest that you read the product label to see what the serving size is. Traditionally it's a half cup. When the uncontrollable urge to splurge hits and you feel there's no way to get around eating your treat, have only half the recommended serving size. Then eat it very slowly, enjoy it and move on. Make an active decision and then don't beat yourself up about it. Should you decide that you're not going to have it, that's an active decision as well. Whatever you decide to do, hold your ground and know that it's just another step in the evolution of Moon. Working on a couple more recipes and tips, they'll be coming soon. Take care friends. In Health, Sandy