Why are so many hung up on Sex aon this Board?

OK, GF, I'll bite! Not that I am IN to biting, now mind you!

Seriously.....Fear is our hang up. We are taught to suppress the pleasures of the flesh for fear of being judged. We are taught they are dirty. In supressing our urges, we get hung up. We try to justify our actions to others.

I am not saying it is ok to harm anyone with sex or anything else. I simply say, we are to use our gifts with love and respect. Sex is one of the many gifts we recieved when we were made flesh. Touch is a good thing. A loving and tender expression of the divine. Even Jesus had skin and a penis. I think if we are truely comfortable in or sexuality, we have no need to put it out there for everyone else.

IMHO

MiMi

Further...

It all goes back to the same-o' thing. When we greet each other do we say an honest loving hello or do we say hi, I see you are different from me? We need to be just folks without the labels wether sexual or racial or etc. We are all jus folks anyway. No need to justify who we are. Just be.

Mi

sensor (J)....Reask the question in different words to express the "question you are really asking" and then I will re-answer.

But for now I will respond to the question as posed. "Why are so many hung up on Sex on this Board?"

Simply put, in my opinion because they are hung up on their own inability to address their own. Like MIms said, people out of conditioned fear create their own prudishness about physical communication. Sex is a physical act but is also highly spiritual and before one can enter into that level of communication with another, they have to feel they have permission spiritually; when in actuality the opposite is true. If one has balance in one's life, then they have the ability to communicate physically with another of like minded balance. This in no way condones adultery or fornication. It does however imply responsibility.If one can't properly communicate one's needs and expression then how will they reach the spiritual access of physical communication without the same love?

Now, once you re-word the question with other words, you will find another meaning and a whole new set of answers and maybe even questions.

For example: as worded I see the question to propose that some people on the board are "hung up on the talk of sex", some people have 'hangups about sex", some people are frigid and prudish and don't want to discuss sex, and the list goes on. So I ask you, what is it you 'really' want to know, especially from a S&R point of view? Thank you for proposing the question. I believe adults can have adult conversations about such things. Lets see where this thread goes.

hello J, this question, could fill a book......

In my daily life....meeting, greeting...and passing others....I have often encountered guys....that would say sexual comments to me....and then they would watch for a reaction...knowing about energy....I walk with the energy of peace and goodwill for all....however, all the times those guys, said a sexual comment...I met eye contact...and let them know.....they crossed a serious Line....

example: a homeless person...outside a grocery store...I was working in .....walked up and asked me for a lite and a smoke...I handed him one and lite the lighter for him....then I sat down and continued with my break....his next comment: " have you ever been raped?" My whole energy changed....I looked him in the eye....and said..." No, and the would be rapist, would be sorry...because I would use martial arts and take his eyes out of their socket"......he backed away...and said: " you would not do that"....I said: " I would give all CPR, and I would also be ruthless, to save my life"...he walked away quickly looking over his shoulder.....end of that encounter....

Sex is beautiful, wonderful, life giving, life supporting....and much more....but boundaries regarding Sex...must be in place....we all deserve to walk through life....and not be approached with sex from others.....So Guys, what is the Word....I am looking ...........what does one say to these folks that throw sexual energy via comments our way?

There are countless examples....thanks sensor, I look forward to reading the posts on this thread...

tt

..ha!...well, one thang I do KNOW...it ain't me!!...ha!..

..For me, to just be given gifts such as a hug, and hand held, apeck on the cheek...a cry on an actual shoulder..

..SEE? to peope who have had mere ffection, I say, how lucky you hve been in this life..most take affection for granted....lack of it has been horid these 54 years, for ME who IS me....

sex?...ha, like I said 5 min....have a coke !..ha

it is noting without love...so I am unqualified to answer....I have not been loved...

good spaces

..ha!...well, one thang I do KNOW...it ain't me!!...ha!..

..For me, to just be given gifts such as a hug, and hand held, apeck on the cheek...a cry on an actual shoulder..

..SEE? to peope who have had mere ffection, I say, how lucky you hve been in this life..most take affection for granted....lack of it has been horid these 54 years, for ME who IS me....

sex?...ha, like I said 5 min....have a coke !..ha

it is noting without love...so I am unqualified to answer....I have not been loved...

good spaces

I honestly hadn't noticed! Maybe I'm reading the wrong threads. I'm all for talking about sex! Especially since I'm living vicariously in that department these days! Where's the discussion?

No hang ups here. But, I will admit I did have hang ups. Yes, I was one of those girls that tried to stay a virgin until my wedding day. But, that is impossible when one gets violated by another no matter how much virginity is desired. But, I worked my way through it and frankly I have to say that I am not going to put such a premium on virginity for my own daughter. I mean I am not going to push her out onto the streets to give up her virginity, but I guess I can see how much extreme thought can make for problems for the individual.

YOU GO SISTER!!!! HIIIIIIIIIIEEEEEEEEEEEE YAHH!!!!!!!! Kick'em where it counts!

SISTER HOMEGURL SME - We all love you dearly......maybe not THAT way.....but we loved you so you can't say it THAT WAY....one must say, I haven't been "made love to" in a while....or whatever is aptoprite...... and that is the "nice way."

I am willing to discuss it. It is a natural part of our lives. What parts do you wish to discuss Beautiful Spirit?

Well this is not the right forum for this, you need the relationship forum instead. We discuss spirituality and whatnot here not sex.

I honestly hadn't noticed! Maybe I'm reading the wrong threads. I'm all for talking about sex! Especially since I'm living vicariously in that department these days! ]:)Where's the discussion?

comment...that's hilarious, xtendlove...made me laugh, you little devil. J.

Well this is not the right forum for this, you need the relationship forum instead. We discuss spirituality and whatnot here not sex.

You could have fooled me...once when I was going over some posts, I laughed and said, this is not a S&R board, it's an S&M board. So, much self flagellation, so much guilt, so much denial that then becomes something else that ain't pretty nor does it feel good, so much hidden seduction. I can and do read between the lines, pick up on innuendos, and can spot where someone is coming from. So, this is why I posted this here. J.

Because for me, sexuality and spirituality are connected as spirituality is connected to everything in our lives.

And because sometimes someone says something and my sense of humor gets the best of me...

Love,

Arwen