anyone ever think the man is cheating?

why he set a dentist appt. on her day back to work?

why does she have to ask for help? cant he see that she's overwhelmed?

would he even help if she did ask for help?

My heart goes out to Cecilia!

maryg12:

You are right.... there's should be a show titled "How Can Your Forget Your Child?"

Brenda needs to be put behind bars and take responsibility for her actions.

*My big question is "Why isn't she in jail?!"

I am a Mother... I go to college full time, My husband and I own a business, we both work full time, and every other weekend, have my 3 step children totaling 4 children from ages 4-13 in my care. Not once EVER as overwhelmed as I have been, have I forgotten or left a child in the car.

*Maybe it was pre-meditated and this is all an act so she can keep herself out of jail.

*The day care workers said she had been warned numerous times about these behaviors... maybe if Dept of Family services had stepped in the baby would still be alive?

*If Brenda wasn't a school vice principal, would she be in jail? I bet a regular, blue-collar worker would have been put away-no questions asked.

These questions should be addressed.

Wasn't she fired from her job? And aren't her friends and family shunning her? What more do you want? A public hanging?

I think that what I struggle with the most in all of this (aside from the anguish of such a horrific event) is just exactly how being busy, even very busy, can ever, ever, ever equate to forgetting a child riding in the same car, a child not five feet away. I simply cannot accept the explanation that a change in routine would so derail a parent's thinking that they would then forget their child.

Too, I must also admit that I was discomforted by Brenda Slaby's apparent composure on the television show. It seemed so out of place with the topic being discussed. However, Mr. Slaby seemed so utterly disconsolate, so devastated. Mrs. Slaby did not.

I am so glad that other women agree this women is crazy, whoever forgets their kids in the car should be arrested and sent to jail for life, maybe that would give them more incentives to remember that poor child could be cooked alive in the car...

On that note I love Oprah but I am getting sick of her bringing these people like this crazy woman, that was all about "poor me" never about what her poor little baby girl had to go through, dying alone in a hot car... then there is the English family that kept their kids in the hotel while partying they are also in fault...

There is a device that I google that could help these so called "busy" parents, I am disappointed by Oprah that she did not mentioned that in her show... The Child 'Minder® System

About 113 kids die alone in a hot car while parents "forgot them" ... time to help those airheaded people, car manufactures should put these device in to every seat, help the children

I don't think Brenda's husband was necessarily cheating but I agree that making his dentist appointment at the same time was very bad timing. So one of them gets stuck with the kids, if neither child goes to daycare. I am starting to think every time I heard the word "overwhelmed" by some young mothers, that they simply mean they can't handle having a child to look after and be around 24/7. Nature says that adults are not really designed to want to be around other kids constantly, unless that adult happens to be a pedophile. I feel I am honest enough to admit I would not want to be around a child for 18 years straight, either. Back to the young mothers, obviously feelings of regret do exist, but our society considers it taboo for parents to be open about these feelings of regret. Back in the 1970's there was the infamous Ann Landers column titled "if you had to do it again would you have children" more than 50% said no, they wouldn't. It was the most controversial newspaper column ever, and for a very good reason.

Maybe the most bizarre part being, back in those days, children were still regarded as a "necessary evil", a burden upon adults. Within the past few decades a 180 degree turn was made. Babies are now worshipped to the point where they have become a subculture of America. There just is no realistic view of breeding. You'd think that we, as humans, supposedly the highest form of creation on the planet (yeah right) would learn by now not to be brainwashed into motherhood lock, stock, and barrel. People still have kids for all of the wrong reasons. Back to the original story, Brenda became a statistic in the "How am I doing as a parent?" game. Nothing there can be changed, except to hope she has no more babies.

I ve gotta be the most overwhelmed mom on the planet ! Im 27 years old and crying as type this story cause Im embarrassed much, um Oprah , I don't have any where else to turn to , Iam homeless ,yes Iam pregnant again and yes I do have 3 beautiful children that I miss so much . For the last 6 years Ive missed them , My2 daughters and my son have been in the system and there is nothing else I can do. My family has turned their backon me ,my mom won't help me cause she is dealing with the lost of my brother last october 22,2008 ,my daddy won't look my way so asking him for any help is crazy .No help from my lawyer he withdrew himself from my case with kids and there was feul to my fire , to make this any embarrassing ,Just lost my job ,It's hard to find another one too! Very hard times ,I even lost my apartment and don't know what to do anymore people say that I've went crazy ,Just as I would like very much love to be working right now did mention I was pregnant about 3 months ,I already dont get any sleep ,Im very restless ,and have nomoney and living for the moment will get plenty only when the baby is born . Just when times don't get any harder for my social services can't find 2 of my children at all , my daughter Jasimine and my son Quitay . Their ages range from 9t0 5 1/2 years old they can find my baby girl Joselyn she's 4yrs. old. I feel back into a corner , If still gotta chance their is no one who will give me . Ms.Oprah will you help me PLEASE ,I want my life back togeher ,with my family . I miss them so much , what should I do ?

I am sorry to hear about your troubles. However if you were to go on Oprah to tell your story, she might suggest the same thing I would: birth control. Have you tried a women's shelter? Also, where is the father of the baby you are now carrying? or did he leave town already?

Hi,

I believe it is the values of our society that caused this horrific accident.. We are suppose to raise the family, go out and "earn the bacon and put it in a pan " and cook it up too, as one commercial insinuated many years ago. In other words we are to be "Super Women" and do all things. We have a society that defines success by the amount of money that is in the bank, by having American Dream, and if you don't have these things somehow your a failure. The work place surely doesn't support the family. How many of them have child care facilities on site so parents don't have to go elsewhere to drop off their children, and where parents are able to visit therir children during breaks and lunch.I would think very few.

Then there is this buisness " multitasking what a joke. I beleive we weren't created to such a thing. I remember my old immigrant father saying to me, "My child always finish what you have started first, before you start another. Then you know you are finished with that, because if try to do many tasks all at once nothing will ever get finished." How true this is. As a society we need to slow down and take a breath appreciate what we have and not be gluttiness always wanting more and more. Maybe we need to learn to live with less and appreciate life and each other more.

I want to know what happened to the saying" IT TAKES A VILLAGE TO RAiSE A CHILD." Where is the village now? It is no more. We now have become age of the "nuclius" family how stupid of us to think we are able to do it all by ourselves. For 50 , 100 years or more it has always beenthe "extended" family along with the mother and the father has raised the children, the aunts, the uncles, the always respected, grandparents, the cousins and the friends togehter haelping each other out to traise the children. In that enviornment there would never have bee a child left behind in the care because mother was overwhelmed. There would have others to help her. We are truely in a sad place as a society the most precious commodaty that we have we are not taking care of properly we are handing over to strangers to do that for us and that is our children, because of our lifestyle. This is affecting our families as a whole. from there the educational system of our schools, and our whole society at tlarge. We need to look at ourselves and change the errors mof our ways and wake up and smell the coffee. MN deepest sympathies goes this mother and my heart pains for her. I pray and hope she is granted peace to go on with this great burden that she carries.

Angelekie

There is something else going on here. She mentioned that she lost her children 6 years ago. That's a long time.

Hello Aisley,

I did not expect anyone to respond to my comment. As I have stated, we are not the judge only God. But everyone is entitled to their opinions. If you read the facts. She knew her daughter was in the car. She decided to leave her in the car because Cecilia was asleep. Whether she did it on purpose, letting Cecilia stay in the car for EIGHT HOURS, only she and God knows it. So please don't put words in my blog when it is not stated. Just like you, if you choose to take BRENDA's side, you are entitled. I'm not the judge, nor you. I'm a mother and do cherish my children's life. God Bless.

This is a message board, not a blog and everyone may or may not respond to your posts. You stated she made a conscious decision to leave her child in the car. I did NOT put words in your mouth. If you are stating she made a conscious decision to leave her child in the car, then you are also stating she purposely murdered her child. If there is some other hidden meaning to the term "conscious decision," please let me know.

I am not taking sides. This isn't elementary school. Unlike you, i'm just choosing not to believe that she purposely left her child in the car to die. You are of course welcome to your opinion, but so am I.

This is a message board, not a blog and everyone may or may not respond to your posts. You stated she made a conscious decision to leave her child in the car. I did NOT put words in your mouth. If you are stating she made a conscious decision to leave her child in the car, then you are also stating she purposely murdered her child. If there is some other hidden meaning to the term "conscious decision," please let me know.

I am not taking sides. This isn't elementary school. Unlike you, i'm just choosing not to believe that she purposely left her child in the car to die. You are of course welcome to your opinion, but so am I.

Angelekie,

I agree, there is something SERIOUSLY WRONG with societies set up of both parents being away from their children working 40 hours a week, plus an hour lunch, plus drive time.

It is even too much for one parent to be gone that long from their partner and kids, in my opinion.