I can't wait to see this show Monday! I am a mommy of two, small children so, I know I will be able to relate.

I recently found out how hard the job of being Mum is. I am a Mum to beautiful 16 week old baby boy and I feel like I should be enjoying spending time with and I hoped by now that I would have found a balance between being a Mum a wife and hopefully not losing my identity in the process. Instead I feel like I am being pulled in all directions I feel like I am failing at everything thing especially with my relationship with my husband, sex is most definitely not on my list of things to do.
I am hoping your program on monday will help me feel at least that I am not alone!!! and perhaps what I can do to get it together!!

I am excited to hear of the silent community of women who try so hard to develop our children into perfect well rounded individuals while slowly dissolving their own sense of self. I have lived this way for too many years. So for me the last year, thanks to Eckhart Tolle, has been of one to try to "be" with my children as a fellow human being and not try to force myself in the role of Mom 24/7. I am slowly learning that we can take some of the pressure off of ourselves to create perfect children and have some faith that they are individuals with journeys of their own. We can guide and we can help re-direct, but to control them is not only too much for ourselves, it is too much on them. Like anything we as mom's and the children need space to develop and space to be. Obviously, it is not easy to watch your toddler throw a 15 minute fit in the parking lot of Target without trying to fix them and save face as a Mom. We only become "failures" as Mom's when we judge ourselves as such. If somehow we can slowly learn to be present with our kids and have faith that our being with them is more important than our constant controling them, we can release our focus on the future and learn to be ourselves again.

I hope this show results in a new sense of sisterhood with Mom's supporting one another instead of the judging, comparing, competing that keeps Moms focused on the future result they want the children to be some day. They are each precious in the "now" and so are we as Mom's and individuals. So perhaps it is a time to call a friend tell them you'll watch their kids and give them a chance to be, some space to grow as individuals, some time with their spouse and surely they will return the favor.

Imagine what kind of country we could have if all the Mom's at home suddenly remembered who they were as individuals. Imagine the benefit to the kids of Moms playing with them in the "Now" instead of planning their perfect graduation day from the perfect college, with the perfect job offer waiting for them. Imagine the marriages when we learn to live and parent in the now with faith that our kids will be fine. We could free up time from all the worrying and planning with time for ourselves and our marriages. I think it starts with learning to accept ourselves, our children, and each other as fellow travelers on the path of life and not try so hard to be the best. Let's learn how to be grateful and learn how to be. So hopefully we learn how to create just a little space in our lives to remember who we are and help others to do the same.

I was at the taping of this show and can't wait to watch it. It is going to be a great one!

I am a 38 year old mother of an 18 year old daughter and a 13 year old son. Early on I admit you stop being an individual and are just focused on being the best mother ever! I also believe at some point you are only as good as you were taught. My mother was a gentle nuturing person. I also stayed home for 18 years. In that time I earned very little money and ended getting a college degree. I still stay home, running a small business out of my house. Staying home is not for everyone, but it works for us. My husband is a Police Officer and worked a lot of overtime for his family. At this stage in life it seems the children need so much advice, guidance and understanding. When they were younger, I cried over everything and even wrote in a journel to keep myself sane. We are human. We make Mistakes. We make the same mistakes over again. I think we just want to be us- our personalities need exposure. I remember counting to myself before picking up my children or saying I'm sorry when I knew, I blew up for something stupid. Patience wasn't a strong point when you are younger. I'm still making stupid mistakes. There has to be a time when you can be just you.

Your fine.. Your little boy is still very young. Heck your body is probably not back together yet! I always tried to put my children to bed early (around 7:00pm) So I could take a quiet bath, relax and maybe later be a better sex partner. It is hard to even feel sexy in this stage on the game. I remember the diapers, the puke, the endless nights. We as mothers are not perfect, we are human. Try and find something you enjoy doing once your child goes to sleep. Even if that is you sleeping too. It gets better! honest

I do not think this show begins to show what motherhood is all about. It is shallow and meaningless to say the least. I do not know any mothers stay at home or working that talk, or act like these three. I believe this show will be short lived. Too bad because I do admire the actors in the series.

I was wondering your age with the grownups children. That mean you got married at the age of 20, and you had your youngest at the age of 25. Its nice being a young mother with grownup children around you.

The biggest secret in the lives of moms is that they were someone before they were a mom and sometimes it is hard to remember this. I'm an empty nester and have been for quite some time now so I've lost what I call "the mommy glaze". I loved being a mom to my children from the moment they were born until they were in their late teens. My friend's teased me about being a "Supermom" because I had to do it all. I divorced when they were very young and their dad died not long after. I was a single working mom for many years. My children had a lot of advantages, but they never really appreciated any of it. After my youngest graduated from high school, I remarried and have been living the life of my dreams. My children have not been living the life of their dreams and don't want to take responsibility for this themselves and so have chosen to blame me for all of their bad choices and miseries.

I don't feel responsibile for these 30-something adults anymore. My husband, a wonderful man, and I worked hard at helping them to launch themselves into the adult world (they have more college degrees than they need and we paid for counselling too) and we shared our abundance with them as they grew more miserable and surley the older they got. We gradually began pulling back 5 or 6 years back and said to each other "Enough". The adult children and the spouse of one of them eventually decided that they would no longer have contact with us and our life unexpectedly got better than it ever had been.

My husband's and my relationship has been so much closer and without any of the toxic waste my children and the one's spouse heaped on us. My health improved. My husbands health improved. We have more friends than we've ever had before. We don't feel torn about where we spend our time, energy or our resources. Our financial situation is better than it has ever been. My husband's career took off in a great positive direction...up and with raises.

We miss the grandchildren, but they are now at an age where their friends will be more important to them than we would be and whoever they were as tots we will never see again. We've accepted this, but we also still have the greatest memories of the time we had with them and nobody can take that from us.

We have lots of family that we are close to and enjoy. We anticipate that someday either my children will grow up or our grandchildren will grow up and we will be reunited with the grandchildren but until then we are just going to enjoy this lovely vacation from these poor sad human beings who are my children and who are disappointed with my lack of perfection. Unfortunately their father died when they were young, after I had divorced him, so I was the only available target. My advice to other parents with miserable adult children is to step back...out of range and begin spending your time, energy and resources on yourselves. You will be amazed at how much younger you begin to feel, how much your life will actually improve and how much longer you will probably live. At the rate we were going, when in contact with my children and the one's spouse, we would not have lasted to our retirement.

Children are born with their own free will and their own personalities. They don't belong to us. They belong to themselves. We as parents don't belong to them either. The one thing we all have in common is that we were all once children.

My elderly Mom asked me what my adult children's problem is that they won't speak to me? I told her, "They don't like the way they were raised". She answered, "Who does?!?!"

I became pregnant at 18 and a mother at 19...my mother forced me to get married and sent me into the "LionsDen"....I knew nothing other than I had a responsibility, a child, a husband that did not lift one finger to help and spent more time at the bars than at home..and after two more kids...I finally got it! My kids were well cared for, and their home very clean....after I got divorces (this is the short story) I met someone a couple of years later and married him and had 3 more children... the second was a still born.....he too was abusive, home more, but when he worked he was not....so I had five kids, a very clean house and children...had to send my two oldest to my ex to protect them from the second husband....oh boy, this is a long story....I worked morning, noon and night to make my childrens home and life the best I could...I had no time for me, but I always kept myself up....for their sake....and I would do without so my children did not have to!...Now, they are all grown, I never found out who I was or am, and love or hate me....if I wrote a book it would be called "They don't see ME"......it speaks volumns....I learned sacrificing yourself, not pulling your kids into your world in order to protect them does not necessarily make you a great Mom in their eyes....when I see how some of their friends mothers or their spouses Mom's were and they treat them like platiumin, and me, who did so much and tried so hard is treated and taken for granted, I am sickened by it! There may be many laughs on this show, my story is not funny and how I see children being raised today...like Nanny 911, I am convinced I am a Saint and should be awarded the Purple Heart for surviving it all....love and blessings to all....Linda

Interesting topic ladies, but lets not loose sight of the reason we chose to have children in the first place.

My circumstance is mush different than most of you. I could not have children so easily and had to go through extensive fertility treatment in order toto finally conceive. Thankfully we were blessed with our gift from God. After all of the pain and loss that I suffered I would not change my circumstances for anything, and this is what make me different from you. If it were not for all of the tearful nights and broken dreams, I too might have forgot the reason that I chose to be a Mom.

I thank God every day for our blessing and the Journey that it took to get there.

You were someone before you were a mother and a wife or at least on your way to being someone. Go find her and start having a really good time. There's more to life than being a mom. It took me years to find that out but it is true. I was a saint too. My children don't see me either. Its okay. I see me. I am courageous. It sounds like you were courageous also. I hereby award you the Purple Heart of Motherhood.

I am so excited about this show! When I was choosing the perfect person for my very first episode of "The Mommy-Muse Is In: Empowering Your Journey into Motherhood" on the VoiceAmerica Health & Wellness Network, I decided on Vicki Glembocki so we could tell the WHOLE truth about motherhood, not just part of it! She was the best 1st guest I could ever have asked for. I am beyond delighted that Oprah is sharing her BOLDNESS with the world - thank you!

I'm so happy that you are blessed with a child and wishing you all the best and enjoy every moments .......my heart break for those women that wants children so much but either they can't have them or have a hard time trying to become pregnant. Children are a blessing and being a Mom is not an easy job but yet it's awesome would have love to have a few more.

I was reading a review of Dooce's new book and one comment stuck out to me...what happens in a decade when these kids read the pages of information being written about their lives? What will it feel like for her daughter, will she blame herself, or resent her mother? I don't think women shoudl be afraid to talk to each other, but to make their careers out of their feelings about their children and other family members seems a bit risky. Perhaps sharing with each other is very different than sharing with the world on a blog where anonymity does not exist.