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Why it is all worth it...

Posted on Oct 8, 2009 3:41 PM

It's been a while since I wrote...

We work a lot of long hours and have hectic days here at the show. There are alot of days where we get lost in all the details, the deadlines and we forget why we get up and come into the office every day.

Here's why...

This is from Guest Andrea Fellman - Thanks Andrea from our whole team, we'll never forget you - Joanna, Teri, Erin, Sarah, Julie, and Leslie...

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Today is my Oprah Day!
My Oprah experience can be summed up in one word - Unbelievable!

I could have dreamed of a million different scenarios for me getting a chance to sit on Oprah Winfrey's couch. Perhaps, I created a product that she found to be amazing, or that my new book was so relevant and truthful, or maybe my company was helping sick children around the world.

Everyone dreams of being on Oprah, because if you're on Oprah than you are doing something positive, something worthwhile and you are making a difference. So was I worthy?

I was not on Oprah to highlight anything that I was doing or that I have done, I was simply a part of this show to help tell Stephanie Nielson's story, a story of strength, love and survival. I believe I was picked to meet Stephanie because I needed to see motherhood through a different lens, one that I had never seen before. I think I was losing focus on what was really important in my life. Often times I am so focused on what will happen NEXT in life, that I am missing significant parts of the life I have NOW.

Before I met Stephanie I put little or no value on being home with my children and quite frankly disrespected the job. After spending a day with Stephanie she made me realize that each day counts and every little moment matters. Being a mother may not always be easy but it is priceless in value.

I didn't think I could feel successful just staying home, but after seeing how much Stephanie finds value in everything she does for her children, I know I can too. Because what better to be successful at then raising smart, responsible, well rounded children.

Another part of Stephanie's story that really stuck with me is that she had to say good bye to herself. I just didn't understand this. I think I've considered this every day since meeting her. I found this to be so powerful. If Stephanie was able to say good bye to herself, then what can the rest of us say good bye to? So many of us hold onto things from our past, our relationships, or past situations and life's struggles. If we could all learn to let go and say good bye to something in our life, how powerful would that be.

When looking at the family picture before the accident Stephanie said "That was my life then and it was beautiful, but this is my life now and it's still beautiful." Amazing! If we could all just have her courage and strength.

Stephanie does not know this but I have taken that picture with me, it is so vivid in my mind, and that's where it will stay. Because when I get to that place where things get tough, or whenever I get caught up in the craziness of life and if I find myself not appreciating all that I have, I'll close my eyes and remember that picture.

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To the Nielson's and the Oprah Winfrey Show, Thank you for this Gift.

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Andrea Fellman

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Hi LG...

thank you for sharing such a beautiful and gracious letter.

Thanks for writing in Andrea~
Greetings, LG~

I see that you, much like myself, has had the opportunity to view something that made a shift occur on the inside of you. I don't have to tell you that w/each passing day, the emotions you received today will carry you all the way, if you allow Him to direct your paths. I know, I re-live a scene from Oprah's movie "Beloved" w/each breath I take.

13 years ago, I stood on the movie set of 'Beloved" (much like what you have described above) and saw the world as a new day and new beginning. My whole world changed after that experience, it made me change my words, my thoughts, my prayers, my friends....everything!

The scene in the movie took place in 1873, there a child stood w/out a voice or choices, she stood as her grandmother spoke words that no child should ever hear or have to endure. ( they took your mother many times, only you she put her arms around ) Child Sethe watched as they hung her mother (at the hanging tree) w/out a tear in her eyes, for Sethe was brave as a child and adult.

The role of younger Sethe was played by our daughter, the child that stood there was the children of the world crying out in silence. (children today have problems that we never had growing up, some don't even play outside) The spirit spoke loudly in my ears, I had to make a difference in the world, I surrendered it all to Him and He opened up a whole new world for us.

The movie inspired me to open up a daycare center. A Beloved Start Learning Place was born and I'm so grateful for the experience. Our daughter found her calling while working in the daycare, she's off to college to become a child psychiatrist. This month we celebrate 13 years and 60 plus children later, we have never advertised and we remain full, not one child hurt, that's a AMEN moment!

See Andrea, everyday brings fourth different challenges. In 1996, I lost a nephew, he was 10 years young, born premature (like our child, born premature too..4lbs) weighting only 2 lbs. his mother acidentally ran over him w/the car. My first thought was, here I am, taking excellent care of other peoples children, yet, one of ours is killed. The pain was unbearable at times.After sometime had passed, I ordered a shed to store daycare stuff in. I recall after all of the children had been picked up from daycare oneday as I was putting away the outdoor toys, I began to sob remembering what we had lost. I sat down on the floor of the shed and questioned God. Did he ( my nephew) suffer? I continued to shed tears, then the screaming began, then I became silent. As I picked myself up off the floor, my eyes became focused on the stamp on the wood in the shed, it was stamped w/my nephew's b/d. In my mind, God had spoken to me, the date gave me peace, peace like a river.

In Jan.09 as I was getting up for church, I could hear water running, I followed the sound.(pipes had bursted in the walls in 3 different places) Our inspired daycare center was underwater, I was devastated. I questioned God again, how could I be lead here to loose my only income? Why, Lord, why? I was totally,lost,frustrated and I think I cried for several days. I called all my daycare parents, letting them know that the center and everything in it was ruined. The parents showed up to support me, my neighbors came forth to offer their help and guess what? Not one child left me while I was rebuilding, they stayed. Have you every had to touch everything you owned before, even if it had little or no value? Lord Have Mercy, it will make you grateful. As I was going through, God revealed to me that my 13 years of notes I had been jotting down about my journey to Beloved were spared in the flood. When all was done, God had made everything new. I just needed to BELIEVE in Him, thats all, just trust and BELIEVE.


Thanks Andrea for fueling the fire this day, just remember to never allow the fire to go out in your experience today. It's not by chance you where given this task, take it and run on to see what the end will be. Just remember...(last line in BELOVED) You,your best thing! When things get busy,rough, tuff, reflect. Reflect and it will put you back on track, I guarantee it, I tried it for myself.

~Utterly Beloved

Hi Andrea,

Thank you for your post and sharing that letter. It is words like this that rekindle my passion to do similar things (bringing joy and hope) to my fellow countrymen. My dream is to be an Oprah (of sorts) in Africa. TO help my people, show them they can do better, rise above every situation, find inner strength to go on and be the best they can be in this life. I do not have the technical know-how and someone has taken time to inform me that I can never achieve that dream. But I dream on and I know that though there are so many odds against me, I will achieve that dream of being an instrument for opening doors to my people.

Thanks again.

P.S. I want to learn about setting up a talk show (nothing as fancy as The Oprah Show! but of good quality and high standards). Are there any sites you could direct me to? I'd appreciate this.

Oprah, i think you should have dedicated the entire show to micheal jackson's "this it movie". The best you could do was tito and jackie via skype...get real!

Stephanie's story moved my husband and I to tears! Thank you to all of Harpo's staff for delivering such an inspiring, wonderful show!! God bless!

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