furtadosue

Can't wait for this topic!!
Dr.Laura, what would you say to nine year old girl that came home from school yesterday and said that all the girls in school are talking about already having sex or thinking about it? This is third graders.

Thanks
Susan

gmcniece

please continue to speak with my friend. her story was recently on the news. her daughter committed suicide due to the aftermath/ridicule/bullying that resulted from "sexting"...I sent a couple of emails to the show from the Be On the Show "sexting" link earlier. if my friend could have a wider audience, be given a chance to warn more parents, share her story, it might begin to help her and I know it would help others.

producergs

Thank you so much, furtadosue & gmcniece... I'm sending your posts along to my team right now.

What else do you want covered on this show?

furtadosue

Mar 14, 2009 11:44 AM

  |   in response to: producergs

How are we supposed to teach our kids just to be kids when everything they hear from their peers is about boys and sex ? Ive already raised two kids twenty five and twenty one,The world is a much different place

gmcniece

Mar 14, 2009 11:55 AM

  |   in response to: producergs

ok, gina...I may be going out on a limb here, but what about parents of older teens, young adults who have high funtioning autism (like my 20 y.o. son)? never really gave much thought to it, but it IS very difficult to express all this to him...this could be a great topic to briefly touch on, but do an entire show at some point on sexuality when you are dealing with someone like this. Eventually, gina, all these younger children diagnosed with autism will be my son's age. our society is going to be changing with so many autistic individuals in college and the work force (hopefully), etc. parents need to start considering now how they approach the topic of sex with these kids. they are quite innocent and can get easily taken advantage of, even more so than the typical teen. there's quite a bit to sexuality and autism, so it may take some real research, but I know there's a real need. just a thought.

hongmeizou

How about bringing some positive role models, some solutions to this growing problems of young children and teens overly interested in sex? There is nothing wrong with being interested in sex, however, the timing needs to be right. Young children and teen need to concentrate on learning and growing up with confidence, they shouldn't burden themselves with sex and emotional hurt.

belinda128

My daughter just turned 12 and I am having the same question. Do I need to put her on the pill? She has expressed to me that she has the desire to experiment but promises she won't do it. She is only 12, but looks 16 or 17. It's really scary. We have already talked about getting pregnant and different diseases she could get if she chooses to do that. I try to watch her very carefully and monitor her friends as best as I can. She said she understands. I just don't know how to handle this. Do you have any suggestions?

t.o.l.l

Have you all read about the child sex slaves on dr.phil back in 2008? There is a TVPRAVVictims Protection Reauthorization Ammendment that needs to be passed everywhere for human trafficking to stop and be brought to justice. Oh yeah, and, if ever caught in that situation, they most constantly check to make sure the glove is still ok and they most pull out no matter what/ how good it feels or don't do it at all until they recieve a license from an advance educated class on sex,ect! If they don't they will suffer the consequences for getting girls pregnant, spreading disease, too young,whoring, saling, exploiting, ect! The most know!

hdeshields

Gina....I was fortunate enough to attend your taping on March 26th. You did an excellent job on producing the show! We were so lucky to get to stay for a second taping that day! After years of trying to get tickets to the show, I finally got through on the ticket line. I had no idea what the topic was going to be that day, I was just excited to be there. When we learned that the topic was "talking to your kids about sex", I have to admit, we were a bit disappointed. I was with three of my friends, only one of which has kids. That said, once the conversation got started, we were energized with the content of the discussion. It turned out that altough we didn't have kids, we had an opinion (a strong one) about what was being discussed. We strongly agreed with Oprah regarding providing information to kids. I was surprised with Gayle's very conservative approach, in fact I felt that the majority of audience members sided with her. 10-year old Jordan was an absolute doll, her mother's commentary was hysterical, I was blown away with the genius in Dr. Laura's questions to the 14-year old couple....who knew a long relationship was 6 months to a year! That was an incredible line of questioning! We were so very impressed with the way the show ran, the energy that Oprah exudes...and it was clear to us that her team does an incredible job to make it all look so effortless...bravo! I hope I can return again one day. I was a dream come true to be there! ~ Hieu

malikatiya

Gina, I was also fortunate enough to be present at the March 26th taping. Like all Oprah fans, I am honored that she allows us to share a small part of her and her wisdom. So, for me, any show was going to enrich my life just as it does every night when I reach for my DVR remote!

Well, my friends and I finally made it to see her and I hoped it would be a full circle moment for me. Therefore, I was blown away to see just how powerful one of my first such moments could actually be! The universe had aligned me to be a part of a show with a show topic directly related to almost my entire life- and that was just part one of the two part series!

I am a 31 yr old mother to an unbelievable 16yr old son. With the support of an amazing family, I was able to crack some of the glass ceilings associated with teen parenting. I am a college graduate raising a son who attends one of the top 50 high schools in the nation. So as I sat and listened to everyone concerns, I realized this is perfect (the producer must be a genius)! Finally someone realizes we cannot afford to continue and just hope that if we tell our kids what our mothers told us- everything will turn out just fine. Obviously, there is not that much of a generational gap between my son and I, so I understand both sides. I now know how hard it is to have those conversations. But I KNOW FOR SURE how critical these conversations can be.

I tried to send TEAM GS a message with the link provided, but i could not get the page to load. I was hesitant to speak up at the show taping for a couple of reasons. For one, I could tell how widely the message was not being received; and for two, I wanted to speak to my son before I shared our views and my forward thinking on national tv.

Luckily I have spoken to him about masturbation and the joys of sex. I have also talked to him about how our society has catered to telling our young women they should 'save themselves' and have missed the opportunity to share that same concept with our young men.

Gina, I hope you will contact me because since I left the show, I realized how much insight I have on the subject. I was once a young girl who could have greatly benefited from Dr. Berman's advice. Now I am blessed with the grand opportunity of raising a young man who can face the challenges that the changing times will always bring him.

THANKS AGAIN!

bhattarai

Dr Berman's advise about the sex and masturbation talk with kids have opened my eyes. I am a first-time mother and my little girl is 2 year's old now. I am already downloading the book by Dr. Berman. I am all ready to be a good advisor for my daughter. I am always worried about so many things for y daughter and this show by Oprah featuring Dr. Berman was really helpful. One of my worries is over. Thanks to everyone who made this show possible.
Cheers

sussan4lov

hi gina,
watched the show on sex and kids.I wanted to tell you about myself, when i was 14 i discovered self pleasuring without any advice from my mother. While my friends were all silly and handing over sex at age 14 I didn't understand what all the hoohaa was about. I felt very sexual but in hindsight realize that my holding off till i was 17 and in a committed relationship was because i had already discovered my own body and sexual feelings independent of boys. I can wholeheartedly say that self pleasuring saved me from doing some really stupid regretful things with my body. Some years later i worked with a woman who had an autistic daughter who started beating her when she became a teenager, the mother told me that she had to teach the daughter how to masturbate in order to relieve the violence, it worked. I find it completely hideous that parents would find that conversation repugnant, it shows me that we have a long way to go when girls are looking at pornographic/sexual images of themselves. then we say you have to have more self worth than that but, don't bother to explain the mechanics of their own bodies functions on all levels. BRAVO to your show for the courage to expose peoples limiting beliefs around sexuality. Keep spreading the truth.