johnny5sol

This is part life... You will win some and lose some. Life is a journey where you understand it or learn from it. If you come to terms with what you truly believe is right and is the most common sense you could look at it as a learning experience. The more you know the better you will learn to figure out where it was meant to be. Don't let your past mistakes with other guys haunt you. Learn from it and you will know when to ask those crazy questions you tell yourself, while your not with him. Trust is Earned. Good Luck.

life-boat

hello
i am sorry for that what happened in past just happened and gone perhaps it still reflecting its reality upon us but we CAN forget it use your own self inside of your self that weird world ( the treasure)if you could use it and get in harmony with against the black past of yours you can absolutly win ...close your eyes and take a deep breath and get inside of your self to get know how to deal with every thing you ,ve faced and ,ll face thise experience you have to learn from it so that you can face strongly when you face again history repeat its self....just look forward
and do not look back i wish you the best of luck in your life and i hope you ,ll find your real own partner who cares and loves ....

ojanet76

Life is about choices..As you are living & learning. I have been married for 33 yrs. I am 51 young. How you may be wondering how did I manage to be married this long?. Trust in a relationship is an Absolute. If you love the one you are with Never look to your past,move ahead. If you cant do that set this one free & move on. You will not be truelly happy in any relationship if you are not happy with yourself. You have to find forgiveness with YOU. Then again maybe staying in this is not really what you want. But no one can steer your mind & heart but you. So decide.. trust, love ,live. honesty, empathy, be loved, one thing I do believe in follow your heart, your head will play games with you.
Wishing you the Best Always

deca211

you're not crazy just scared to be vulnerble again....you have pain from your previous relationship thats unresolved..(duh)...it's normal for you not to trust easily, because of your past experience, but its not healthy to stay stuck in that place...don't make this man pay, for the "crimes' of another...if you love him,trust him, until he gives you a concrete reason not to..I am 34 yrs married (not all smooth sailing)and I was the one early on, that had trust issues..I made him proove himself over and over..had I known then, what I know now..I would have saved both of us lots of grief and pain...let the past go and start fresh, if you really love this guy...I hope someday you will pass this advice to someone who needs it...good luck..and God Bless.

hollysu27

Jul 4, 2009 3:07 AM

  |   in response to: deca211

well said, its not healthy to stay stuck in the past and your new partner shouldn't have to pay for the crimes of another man.

I'd like to add, you've had your fingers burned so its normal to question weather or not your new man is trust worthy. But, try to question things in your mind first, only confront him if its something major. Otherwise you may scare away a really nice guy

ambishade

I don't think you're crazy at all. It's normal to second guess anyone after what you've been through. That said, I think you need to understand that communication is the key to you having and maintaining a healthy loving relationship with your new partner. Try to talk to him about your fears and insecurities. Good luck.