mabeliam's Blog : March 2008

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Words
have a lot of spiritual power and make things happen in a relationship,
that’s why it’s important for the couple to try out the following
exercise. Take a seat opposite each other and make the questions you
need to clarify or carefully assess the way in which your sex and love
is working for both of you. Feel grateful for every answer you get,
because it is a way of opening up and better accept the other person’s
surrender.



These are possible questions you might want to ask
• What do you expect of our relationship which we still haven’t got?
• Do you feel I reach your heart when I caress you?
• Do you feel that whatever we do is geared towards our evolution?
• When we are together, pleasure is superb, but is there anything else you need?

The answers should be short, for instance:
• "What I’ve chipped into our relationship so far has been..."
• "I’d like our relationship to be more intimate..."
• "I need to feel more fulfilled and with you so far..."
Keep
making the same question until all has been said on the issue. When you
finish, try to find those points in common and those which turned out
to be more important, moving, or surprising. If you put this exercise
into practice frequently, you will feel an inner communion with your
partner.
With Love
Mabel Iam
I Love You. Now What?: Falling in Love is a Mystery, Keeping It Isn't



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Love benefits every level of our existence.

Posted on Mar 14, 2008 9:24 AM

It nurtures and sustains every act and situation that we go through in our lives. Thanks to this, it is life’s central theme and the primary area on which we have to focus our energies. Yes, whether we want to admit it or not, all of us will fall in love at some point in our lives. And we will need to learn something about this fabulous art of love because there are schools for every other activity that we undertake – yet for this, the most interesting of all human activities, there is no school.
Every relationship that we undertake in life serves the purpose of helping us to grow, be it through painful or pleasant experiences. Not all relationships work out, but all exist and pass through our lives for some special purpose. Every time we need to learn something, we attract people who will help us find the answers. Only that one specific experience or that one particular relationship holds the key to teaching us the true answer.
Our relationships with others are the perfect mirror of how our own inner energy is working, be it in the form of thoughts, emotions or whatever. That is why we have to take into account the following motto: “That which I love in others is me. That which I reject in others is also me.”
We have the power to accept, modify and grow from any virtue or defect we come across in ourselves. We can also carry out this same process in relationships, to deepen our love and trust for both ourselves and our significant other.
Mabel Iam
If there is one thing that defines living together, it is the word “sharing.” Sharing only takes place when we fully and sincerely surrender something of ourselves, which paradoxically, is not always something that can be divided in two.
Love
Mabel Iam
I Love You. Now What?: Falling in Love is a Mystery, Keeping It Isn't

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I LOVE YOU. NOW WHAT?

Posted on Mar 11, 2008 6:46 PM

Often we enter into a relationship and say “I love you,” and then we ask ourselves, “Now what?” Feeling love for someone is not enough.

We have to construct the relationship and this is the most difficult and complicated thing to do in life. There are no schools that teach this. Nobody has ever taught us how to relate to ourselves or to other people.

A romantic relationship is a continuous exchange of emotions, ideas, opinions, wills, beliefs, actions, reactions, vibrations, thoughts and objectives between two people.

The foundation for happiness is set when this exchange is positive and balanced. Through it, love can be rediscovered and shared by way of trust, understanding, gentleness, union and acceptance. But before we can enjoy its benefits, we must learn how this process is carried out, after we say the words “I love you.”


This process is learned, like any art. In fact, it is an act or maturity if you desire to learn to efficiently and consciously solidify a relationship. This process, when carried out by the couple, is marvelous and very gratifying on the material, emotional, mental and spiritual levels, and benefits all human beings.
Mabel Iam


"Love is the sweetest nectar that nourishes the gods, humans, plants, animals and even rocks. The entire Universe was created by LOVE."
Mabel Iam
I Love You. Now What?: Falling in Love is a Mystery, Keeping It Isn't

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Keeping your relationship happy

Posted on Mar 10, 2008 6:53 PM

Love is a unique and fascinating project that we must learn to keep alive through concrete acts. A relationship must be nourished and cared for. Relationships, like people, change as the years pass. Adjustments have to be made every now and then.

It’s important to distinguish between the actual relationship and the conflicts and challenges that may arise within it. Conflicts should never be extended into other areas of the relationship nor should they be used as an excuse to damage the relationship. For example, if you have a conflict around money, there’s no need to extend it into the sexual arena. Many people use sex as a way to manipulate their partners or to get them to do something against their will. In a couple, all problems should be confronted with a positive spirit and the partners should work together to find solutions.


Mabel Iam

I Love You. Now What?: Falling in Love is a Mystery, Keeping It Isn't

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Why Do We Fall in Love, and With Whom?

Posted on Mar 10, 2008 10:34 AM

No
other human activity is initiated with such powerful hopes and
expectations as an amorous relationship. This is true even for those
who have failed or encountered obstacles in the past with other
relationships. At the start of a new relationship, the enthusiasm of
gambling on love is renewed always. And, unlike most of life’s
activities, falling in love is not something we can plan ahead of time. It just happens.



It
also happens, sometimes, without us realizing it. For example, we may
find ourselves involved in a relationship and ask ourselves, “How did I
get to this point?” Then we realize that the words “I
love you” have escaped our hearts, our lips. It is at this point that
our mind asks, “What now?”
As
long as we are willing to admit it, every human being in some way goes
through this at some point in life. It’s that marvelous aspect of love
and relationships that cannot be controlled like other activities that
develop normally in our lives. And this is how all of these questions
arise after we hear ourselves affirm “I love you.”
Mabel Iam


"Among
the many answers I have found, I believe love is the most beautiful and
simple art that reflects the beauty of life."
Mabel Iam

I Love You. Now What?: Falling in Love is a Mystery, Keeping It Isn'

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Mabel Iam is the author of award-winning self-help bestsellers on love, psychology sold throughout the world. Mabel is a psychotherapist, a romance therapist, and adviser and expert in relationships, as well as a successful hostess and producer for TV and radio shows.

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