...when we realize we are not at peace, all we can do is create a space for transformation, for grace and love to enter...your knowing creates a still space surrounding your nonpeace and changes this into peace...any madness arising between you and your partner should make you glad now that you know about true salvation...just remembering the reality at hand is all it takes...in this manner the 'relationship' becomes your sadhana, your spiritual practice...just hold any unconscious behaviour displayed by your partner in the loving embrace of your knowing...don't react, if need be, respond...the energy behind hostility and attack has not a ghost of a chance against the presence of love....forget the old patterns...accept what is, as is...