...sometimes, maybe most of the time, this is tough for us to 'get'...problems are illusions of the mind...let's see...pain is created when you create a problem...now if you've suffered enough already, then the choice is yours and is actually easy to make...simply create no more problems...if you are to be successful in this you have to access the power of the Now...if there are situations that need to be addressed this very instant, as fleeting as this is, your action is best delivered out of present- moment awareness...the more pressing the situation is, the more intense your present- mindedness needs to be...makes sense...it's totally an intuitive response to a situation with no reaction on your part that makes all the difference...just remember,and often we so easily forget in tight and demanding situations,to stay centered in the Now...this is surrender!.... peace, habsonfire ps...it's relatively easy to stay in the Now when we are being quiet, maybe in meditation, or walking in nature...then the unexpected happens, we are pushed to the limits, and then what?...it's always our choice to decide the attitude we will take...nothing comes easy, it seems. ..remembering that all things pass is part of the solution, but above all it's our ability to be here Now and the inner peace we feel that shows us where we are...keep practicing!