I hear so many contradictions these days about people who air their private lives by coming out of the closet and then being parodied in sitcoms and as oddities to be laughed at. I am not gay, but if I were I do not think it would be an urgent priority to make sure the world knew of my preferences. I fully understand that if I fell for a person of the same sex, that I would wish to be accepted for who I am. I will never be odd, no matter my sexual preferences. Mostly because whatever I do behind closed doors is my own business. I do understand that being herterosexual is more the norm, but these days it almost seems freakish to be normal, and especially so if one is not bragging about "bonking" and various other terms of "endearment" to make sure that everyone knows you are "getting it".

We have been engaging in many discussions about whether pornography is good or bad. So many posters could not wait to describe in depth what turns them on, almost carthartic as if the secret is burning and needs to be shared. My personal view on sexuality is, if you don't have to think about it, joke about it or denigrate it afterwards, then you are having great sex. The point is, that the person you are being intimate with will be your big secret, and sharing complete intimacy means exactly that - not discussing it with anyone else.

Almost every time someone wins a talent competition we are then bombarded with the obvious information we had probably already suspected anyway, that their "gayness" is another huge plus. Why? Probably the artistic talent has something to do with one's sexuality. I actually believe that homosexuality plays an important part in being extremely talented and gifted. Whenever we think gay, we think pink feathers, cross-dressing, transvestites, etc etc. The one common thread of all these gifted people is their ability to entertain. So called normal heterosexual people cannot display themselves in such humorous and side-splitting acts, because "normal" is boring.

I do believe therefore that gay people cash in hugely on their differences. If someone wins a talent contest and is gay, I could almost answer, "I knew it already". Being gay does have an advantage, but it is not as if the person is on steroids and is cheating. If the sexuality does get revealed afterwards people tend to say "wow, achieving in spite of being gay". Of course, why not?

Our sexuality is not a disease. People should be able to get recognition for talent and their private lives should be exactly that. Gay people (not everyone of course) are by nature flamboyant and actually want to be in everyone's faces. The slogan "Gay and Proud" actually should be "Gay and Loud and Proud".

For the rest of the middle of the road folks who will never be on stage, we are "Normal and Formal".

Entertainers can do it all without advertising their sexuality. We know already.

Be free and breathe,

Love from Eve