Life is an adventure one day at a time..... : April 2009

by eveduval
Description: Blogging is therapy. Oprah taught me to look for one precious sign every day to make the day worthwhile. It works. I will report my findings here. The journals stopped a nervous breakdown last year when in a family crisis. The crisis continues....:(
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The future is just a day away

Posted on Apr 19, 2009 2:39 PM

I love my country. I live in South Africa. We have a very young democracy and this is going to be tested with our general elections this week.

I do not have many role models in my life, and am aware that my small cross on the ballot paper may hardly be noticed. Every voting day in this country has almost the same outcome, a ruling party that is voted in by a very large indigenous population divided along cultural lines.

My part of the country is very cosmopolitan and is a top tourist destination in the world. Our lady mayor, recently voted no 1 mayor in the world, is standing as the leader of the party set to become the official oposition in the country. She has been campaigning vigorously, travelling many thousands of kilomteres through this land to give the masses a different view of how a democratic society works. We are currently hosting a very exciting cricket series from India and this has brought in an unexpected source of revenue and incredible carnival atmosphere to the country, so much so that the elections on Wednesday have almost been eclipsed.

Our soon to be president is already a tribal leader. He has three wives. He believes in polygamy. He has had huge corruption charges hanging over his head, only dropped recently because of a technicality. His followers believe he is innocent (of course) and is the chosen leader decided on by a small group of his party members. Automatically therefore he becomes the State President on Thursday this week. The cricket series is in my opinion, a much more exciting event . If we had an opportunity as individuals to vote as a nation for the State President, this would have been a more interesting time.

In his defence of the corruption charges, he has accused the conspirators of a trial by media. Luckily his followers do not read the newspapers (?) But he forgot this one tireless woman who has traversed the land and made sure that all the villages have heard the true story of corruption in the ranks. Double standards prevail. There are talks afoot that the new administration will revise the constitution and make the judiciary accountable to government (?) He has become the president even before the voting takes place, merely a formality now.

Freedom of speech is due for a revision. He is suing a cartoonist for a cartoon in the national newspaper some time back, aptly showing Lady Justice being pinned down by his henchmen whilst he unbuckles his belt. This was a reference to a rape charge that he was let off, due to lack of evidence. It was her word against his, and he blamed the matter on a political conspiracy. What else (?) He stated that he only needed a shower afterwards to rid himself of a possible infection with the HIV virus.

What is left to say. I have a new role model in the form of a woman who has bravely stood up for the truth, and spelt it out in person to the rural communities who have been entirely under his spell, due to tribal custom and traditions. They do not see him as a corrupt person, merely a strong man with a booming voice and a confidence born of arrogance and devoted ignorance. A father of the nation.

He can lead his children into an abyss and they will follow blindly. That is democracy in an African State.

He will never be my father. I am praying for a new mother of the nation. Miracles can happen.

At least there is the cricket to cheer us all up. And the beautiful Bollywood stars who have arranged the IPL Series in this country.

A wonderful breath of fresh air whilst we are struggling with the winds of change. Viva South Africa! Viva India!

May God bless us with a true democracy in a free country. It is the only way forward.

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The mystery of being alive is a conundrum

Posted on Apr 6, 2009 4:32 PM

I am following the path of the forty days of fasting and crucifixion and rebirth, this being a Holy week in which we remember the quiet acceptance of Jesus that he would be sacrificed among thieves and castigated and left to die alone. I sat in a pew in church yesterday and listened to the events re-enacted by three very ernest members of the congregation. These three men played out the parts of the twelve apostles, of Pontius Pilot and of Barrabus. The simple play read so passionately whilst we sat with eyes closed was all it took to actually visualise how someone so loved and revered could be destroyed by a crowd driven by a few instigators who actually were afraid of the power he wielded in such a gentle and compassionate manner. Why does human nature always react so badly when threatened with good versus evil.

I read today that 46 teachers had been caught and were being investigated for sexual abuse in our schools this year alone. My own victimised daughter in 2005 silently suffered and bled and then when she spoke up about her fear and self loathing, she was made to hurt even more. Of course we don't expect a pat on the back when we expose such atrocities in the schools, but the silence and quiet acceptance makes me believe that nothing has ever been taught or remembered, even though it is a Christian matter to stand up to what is wrong and evil in the world. Christianity has been distorted and used and abused so much, that it is not a popular concept.

When I sit in my own haven and listen to that famous story I am convinced that the message is still good for this day and age. Why must we stand up and be shouted down, or simply remain silent on something so huge as teachers abusing their pupils, in a place of safety.

My daughter wrote a book about her experiences in 2006. This exercise was mainly because there was no recourse to justice, and certainly no-one took her suffering that seriously. She ended the book by saying that hers would be the final word on the subject, to warn and prevent others from suffering the same fate. A pupil was bravely telling a story that her school kept under wraps. The women teachers at the school traced her even though she used a pseudonym. They praised her for being so brave and outspoken, even though she risked further ostracism. The headmaster simply banned the book. It is still whispered about at the school and the women teachers still defend my daughter and warn the pupils that sex predators do exist. That is a small success at least.

Well well, the reaction divided the teachers into good and bad. I took the matter to the Council for Educators and insisted that they investigate the teacher further. He was finally given a black mark. Such was the silence, that nobody in the community and even parents who put their children into the school are aware of the travesty only a few years ago. One mother was so shocked when I told her of my daughter's abuse that she thanked me for making sure he does not teach there. My daughter is a quiet hero, still struggling with terrible post traumatic stress, and the consequences of a set back. Her book is still out there, with a web-page giving advice, yet 46 teachers have been able to repeat these terrible deeds over and over again. What of the victims? It is a terrible stigma to speak out, nobody loves a whistle-blower. If only my daughter's lessons could have been used to prevent the further abuse. If only....

But as this week progresses and the sun finally rises on a new born day and year of hope and love, perhaps the message will make a difference. It is a good time to remember that we are all capable of speaking out where we see abuse. Nothing goes unnoticed, but lives are at stake if we keep saying "it is not our problem".

Happy Easter, may hope and dignity be reborn in all of us.

Love from Eve and Talia.

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