Life is an adventure one day at a time..... : December 2008

by eveduval
Description: Blogging is therapy. Oprah taught me to look for one precious sign every day to make the day worthwhile. It works. I will report my findings here. The journals stopped a nervous breakdown last year when in a family crisis. The crisis continues....:(
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Living in the now or trying to rise above

Posted on Dec 30, 2008 12:13 AM

So many highs and lows are presenting themselves at this very frenetic and happiness- tinged- with- sadness time of the year. I have certainly enjoyed more festive occasions, and therefore I run the risk of feeling that this year was not the season of glad tidings and joy that we have experienced on previous years. My friends, a few, have decided to leave us out of the social round, and this has been a source of analysis for the past few days. Ever tried to analyse a problem and been told it is in your head, lol. My own brother did not invite us to his house even once, I think he is undergoing a midlife crisis and it is not my place to invite ourselves over. I suggested that my father at least spend Christmas lunch with him and his family so as to not create a vacuum. I know how important it is to keep lines of communication open.

My children are incredible and my daughter and I have been spending a lot of time together shopping and deciding on how was the best way to celebrate. Our church pastor invited my better half and I to present the gifts of bread and wine on Christmas morning at the early service because of our recent 25th wedding anniversary. I am a fairly simple soul and this was a truly meaningful start the the day.

The actual lunch was dwindled to five people, enjoyable nevertheless, and was over fairly quickly. My energy levels were depleted anyway as I had been working right up to the day and shopping and planning took up all my spare time. The evening improved with twelve guests for a light supper. There was something biblical about our humble celebrations, and I am grateful for those I can truly call family and friends. Our dogs were very happy that we spent the day with them and they were included in the gift giving.

Our good neighbour and holistic healer invited us for a traditional German tea morning on Family Day and we watched a fascinating DVD that she received as a gift about the seven spiritual laws of success by Deepak Chopra. Interesting... rhymes with Oprah. Look for the signs.....my daughter was particularly taken with the suggestion that we cannot move forward in our lives if we do not experience uncertainty - the ingredient which opens up new opportunities. This is especially meaningful as she embarks on her new life next month at university. I am feeling particularly vulnerable as my support will be gone, she is able to make me feel like a human being with potential and not some person that is overlooked for obscure reasons we experience on a daily basis. Our Christmas break has been decidedly reclusive and definitely the quietest. She awaits her final results of her examinations on Tuesday and I am going to take a day off work to be with her. She is my life and she deserves a new life. The rest will take care of itself, it always does.

We can't fight the universe, we are here because of the universe. The signs are all there if we listen quietly and take note of advice that pops up without being asked for. We will observe the sun going down on an eventful year in the most spiritual place, our lighthouse on the edge of the Atlantic Ocean. We are then going to watch the sun rise on a New Year on the other side, the Indian Ocean. That is the advantage of living where two oceans meet. I am making wishes that 2009 brings endless possibilities and new beginnings that influence each and every one of us to realise our true potential and find lasting contentment. We are here for a purpose and it should not be difficult to find it.

Happy New Year, and may you be blessed with bounteous love and happiness every day. Love from Eve

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A season of contradictions

Posted on Dec 20, 2008 1:23 PM

The best and the worst

Be kind to each other in this season of joy
Don't overlook the message it brings
Remember in all the reverie and fun
it's not always an easy time for everyone

And if you are like me, an insignificant other
just a cog in the wheel called mother
There is plenty of work and preparation
Exhaustion and worn feet and exasperation

Bringing forth thus the best and the worst
And still in the midst of it all a sense of fun
So here is something called a ditty
Enjoy your life, see the funny side and be witty

This is a season of contradictions
when the best laid plans go awry
as if to test our good intentions
discovering on whom we may not rely

So here are some ideas of intent
bear with me as I give vent
to a lover who is selfish to you
the gift I would give would be uncertainty

To the lonely I give this advice
you will find friends in the kitchen at a party
For the best are not in full view
hidden because they are different like you

Keep your own counsel this season
don't listen to everyone and don't believe 'em
when they complain about family is a chore
secretly they are bragging that less is more

And if someone randomly cancels the dinner party
an act of unkindness that hurts you deep
remember the folks that didn't even matter
their trouble was just finding a warm place to sleep

The season is not about the table decorations
or what to wear and with whom to share
Our gifts are already in front of us
Simply for once just think out of the box

Love yourself, rejoice in what you've got
Sing out loud and give life your best shot
Light a candle and be spiritual
We are all a part of Creation's miracle

Spread the love.... Eve

(Originally posted December 2007)

Happy Christmas 2008!

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The story of a door that we never used before

Posted on Dec 17, 2008 1:04 PM

The time is getting tight, and we are trying to do it right,

this season of goodwill to all

decluttering our lives and breaking some ties

also seeking truths from the white lies.

We need a door I told my dad, to keep the dogs

from his precious guests at a family celebration

As with all well laid plans that oft go wrong,

this was one party with a huge ding dong.

We underestimated the amount of time

we forgot to fill empty glasses with wine

even poor aunty never arrived as the driver was missing.

Tempers were flaring and all souls were baring

the strain of that tiresome night.

What now about the final day, the Christmas sharing

is anyone inviting us back?

My father declared that I had cracked

because there was no reciprocation

I knew I was right and he was so wrong,

darling family has better things to do.

I am not phased but he was so dazed

for him being rude I closed the door interleading

he was unwelcome until forgiveness pleading...

After six long years we never had use of a door

seems we should remove it before we argue once more!!

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For the past couple of weeks we have been spring cleaning the house and preparing for a celebration, the pure fact that a year has passed by yet again. These days the months seem to fly and we go through the motions with the sure knowledge that time is catching up with us. I have been down for a few years with some very big life-changing events in the family. Some days have been very blue, others complicated and downright impossible. I wrote that we were in a very big hole and were climbing out towards the light, one day at a time.

After all that was how long it takes to dig the hole. It is not easy to put on the optimistic face, but that is the only way to face the day. This year has been tough for so many, with what I call the triangle of life. I thought it was the cycle of life, but the three in one makes good sense. We need health, wealth and happiness to be completely stress free. It seems though that usually one of the three criteria keeps us on the ground, if we have health we can be happy, if we have love we can be happy, and then we are without wealth which brings stress into the picture. Ok, we can have wealth, but no love, love but no health, and it seems as if we are cranking it from one jarring event to the next. Unless we strike a balancing act. We can be high on life for the simple fact of being alive. We can be high on love, because it is the best drug in the world. We can be high on wealth....but without the other two criteria that make the triangle we can be very lonely counting our money. So the triangle is actually a flat base of love and health, and wealth is a bonus. We can stay stable and on course with two of the criteria, but to have the perfect triangle is a fortunate life.

So we have been climbing out of the hole towards the light, and it is not wealth in a material sense. My family is healing and becoming stronger every day. Whatever happens behind closed doors makes us strong for the challenges outside. The celebration is for a family that has stood the test of time. We are going to spread the white tablecloths, sprinkle them with red petals, light silver candles and toast to beautiful lives. We are going to be elegant and youthful and refined. For a few hours we will fall back on tradition to set the music that will carry us forward to new challenges. We are ready, we belong and we are strong.

May you be blessed with a fortunate life. Happy holidays. Love from Eve

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In the mood

Posted on Dec 1, 2008 2:56 PM

In this world of iconic idolatory, I am an introvert.

Indecisive, independent, intuitive and innocent.

I am inhibited, inclined to idiosyncrasies and impish.

I am.

I can be as inclement as the weather, but never insincere.

I am

in your face, yet invisible.

Incidentally incandesscant if invited in

Infinite, incomplete and indefatigable,

I am

an individual,

Inseparable, insular, intense

Interesting.........irreplaceable

I am

Intentionally irrepressible.

In the mood.

Integral.

I am

a self- induced insomniac

Invincible and inspiring.

I am the Interface.

I am you and me....

Incredible.

Eve 2008

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