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Men! What are they thinking? We can't always answer that, but we'll be posting our favorite glimpses into their world in this space every Thursday.
* Stephen Colbert breaks character for Dan Savage's It Gets Better Project. [It Gets Better via The Daily What]
* Want to catch a good mood? When Justin Timberlake and Jimmy Fallon reprise their roles as hip-hop chroniclers in "History of Rap, Take 2," their enthusiasm is positively contagious. [Vulture]
* "The magic of the relationship between the baseball field and its beyond is such as to invite the grandest mythical and metaphorical projections."—Herschel Farbman in "Baseball Fans and the Ball in the Stands" [The Awl]
* This old time sling shot is guaranteed to be a hit with any guy who is on good terms with his inner child. [Hicoree's Hard Goods]
* And if you're worried you might eventually regret gifting a weapon that has the potential to destroy both your favorite lamp and your vision, you can still satisfy the boyish curiosity of men and children alike with this neat study about how suits of armor influenced medieval battles. [BBC]
* "In our crucial human capacities to think, to create, to work, to love, I do not see men and women as different."—Robert Olen Butler, author of A Small Hotel, in O's Twitter chat with him.
We fight better. Or at least that's what Marriage Ref Tom Papa told Gayle on her show this morning.
What do you think? Is there really a right way to fight and do women do it better? Let us know in the comments, and if you're wondering, here are the 15 ways women are tougher, luckier and smarter than men.
We have all been there—on the sidewalk, in the supermarket, at the mall—when a mother starts in on her kid, say, a four year old, clinging to a stroller that holds a toddler sibling, yelling, "shut the hell up....shut the HELL up." The daughter hangs her head and the toddler starts wailing and the mother tells her, too, to SHUT THE HELL UP. And then the light changes or the elevator comes and they're gone.
We wish—god, we so wish—we knew how to respond at such moments, because they come around again and again. And not just what to tell the mother, but to ourselves, too. Because sometimes we overhear people saying what we know (really, what anyone would agree) is the exact wrong thing to say to a child, not always so loud and sometimes with best intentions but still, the kind of thing that makes you think, What is wrong with people—no, really, what is wrong with them? And what's wrong with me, standing here like a fool?
Leigh Newman has found an answer—not the answer—but one that makes it a little easier to share the planet with people, not as she might want them to be, but as they actually are.
I wish these friends had been on my cross-country team. It was a small group, and one of my teammates had the name of a cheerleader--and the hunched shoulders and whispery voice of a mathlete. I thought that Buffy needed a nickname that better suited her tentative personality. So I gave her one. My best friend and I always referred to her as Myrtle behind her back. Myrtle had a funky, shuffly gait and breathed heavily.
Myrtle had goals, and one of them was to speed up. The other, I believed, was to beat me. She lifted weights and ran extra laps after practice, and before long, I stopped laughing when I said, "Old Murt was tough to shake today." In races, Myrtle and I were often neck and neck.
Jane Eyre Pencil Set, $6. Pages from Charlotte Bronte's novel cover these pencils, providing a little literary inspiration while you jot down your to-do list. Also available: To Kill a Mockingbird, Macbeth, Moby Dick and other classics.
Pioneers of American Industrial Design Stamps, $.44 each. Jazz up letters with these classy stamps, which honor 12 of the nation's most important and influential industrial designers and feature striking images of telephones, clocks, sewing machines and more.
Tiny Worlds in Bottles, $23-$29.50. For the woman who loves all things miniature, tiny things in itty-bitty bottles and domes are like sophisticated, shrunken snow globes.
LetterMpress, $5.99. This beautiful iPad app lets you design beautiful compositions with vintage wood type and art cuts on a virtual hand-driven printing press.
On Sunday, I had a bathing suit moment. I went into a sporting goods store and tried on a bikini. It was a cute, unique bikini. It had mushrooms all over it and came from France. I jimmied my body into the thing. I looked at my back, then my front. I thought, "I don't look so awful. Except for the side flab, bottom-area situation."
A big gong went off. (Apparently dressing room attendants keep gongs around for Ah-a! moments.) What, I wondered, would it be like to think, "Hey! I look good! I look strong and ready to swim the English channel!" I hustled away from the mirror, back into the store. Suddenly tennis rackets and water shoes and kayaks were pointing accusingly at me from all corners of the room. "I don't work out," I wanted to confess to them. "I want to! But I'm busy and tired and my back hurts and I haven't worked out for (gulp) 5 years. I have flab. This is bad for my health and strength and mind--forget the bikini!"
On Monday, I decided to try to find a gym or some kind of class: pilates, yoga, whatever came along. I walked the streets around my office; I saw healthy, strong people sweating on machines through windows. I thought the exact thoughts that Jennifer Hudson described in her video, reflecting on how she used to feel before getting in shape: "A lot of the time you see all the fit people, and you think 'I shouldn't be here with them. I'll never get there.'"
Discouraged, I went back to work, and, by some quirky miracle, I saw this video. I laughed until I re-found my inspiration--because I am not being asked to overcome a genetic fear of water or to wear a proud, patient, thoughtful expression while crooning, quasi-disco music plays as soundtrack to my experience. All I have to do is get on the treadmill and put on foot in front of the other. All I have to do is think of my inner big kitty--and commit.
While there are many things we enjoy about summer (long days, warm nights, and multiple excuses to indulge in ice cream), there will forever be the annoying signatures of this season that drive us all bananas--sweat, frizz, and humidity-induced cranky-ness--just to name a few. That's why we were excited to discover MAC Cosmetics' Magically Cool Liquid Powder--this product offers summer skin temporary relief from the heat and gives an instant glow. Formulated with 70 percent water, it feels like a liquid going on, but dries to a sheer powder finish. We especially love dusting it on sun-kissed cheekbones or the tops of our shoulders for extra shimmer. But no matter where you choose to wear it, applying this--especially on steamy days--feels, as the name suggests, like magic.
Check out 12 other beauty treats that will keep you cool all summer
Is there love after love? After a painful breakup, it can feel like you'll never want to see a certain someone again. You might even want to, say, dump all his (or her) overpriced, pretentious, toasted-gold-and-ego flavored coffee into the cat litter box, stir it up, and the scoop it all back into the coffee bag--so that he (or she) will have a delightful early morning drink the first morning in his (or her) new, much larger (!) apartment.
Which is why the world works in more mysterious, wiser ways.