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It's not often that my husband rides the Super Sweet Viral Video train, but the other morning he beckoned me to the computer, his eyes welling up, to watch this: The World's First Live Lip Dub Proposal. Watch the reactions of the (spoiler!) bride-to-be, and remember what you forgot you'd forgotten about the ecstasy of new love, the excitement of new marriage, and the awesomeness of the lip dub meme.

Topics: Aha! Moments, Quotes
Men! What are they thinking? We can't always answer that, but we'll be posting our favorite glimpses into their world in this space every Thursday.

* Marcel Proust, a man of many talents, is responsible for the ink-on-paper scribble at left. Melville House has a great roundup of other artworks by famous writers. (Melville House)

* NHL fans: Prepare to get a little bit tearful watching this roundup of the best hockey ads. (Co.Create)

* Raise the stakes on your day by watching Alan Rickman drink tea dramatically. (Kottke.org)

* Confessions from Chris Rock: "For years I didn't miss an episode of Sex and the City. That's probably not something a guy should brag about." (O Magazine)
Topics: Men, Life Lifters
Photo: Martha Payne
Photo: Martha Payne
Nine-year-old Martha Payne was not too happy with her school lunches, which were measly, sad-looking, and often lacking in fruits, vegetables, and, you know, flavor. So she started her blog NeverSeconds, documenting each meal and including important stats like how many mouthfuls of food -- and how many hairs -- each meal included. The blog has since gone viral and has already affected some real change in the Scottish school system. Which of course is great for the school kids of the world. But it makes the rest of us think—for instance, how would a daily blog of your lunches look? Would the imagery be a gorgeous gallery of well-balanced meals? Rainbows of fruits and veggies? And how would you, honestly, rate each mid-day meal? Today, for example, mine would go something like: Leftover kid mac-and-cheese, 3 mouthfuls. Beverage: 2 cups of coffee. Hairs: one, canine.

I think NeverSeconds can inspire some change not just for the school system but for each of us.  Lunch should be something delicious, a potentially-photogenic pause in the middle of the day, a chance to refresh and nourish and reboot. Lunch should be, in other words, something that would make Martha Payne proud.

Some Inspirations for Non-Depressing Lunches:
The Ultimate Guide to Non-Boring Brown Bags
Our Favorite Sandwich Recipes
Take Back Your Lunch, Take Back Your Life
Photos of School Lunches from Around the World


Topics: Family, Food
Photo: Courtesy of Headsweats
Photo: Courtesy of Headsweats
Anyone who has ever jogged on a boardwalk or walked briskly along a path has faced this classic summer dilemma: hats with a brim are ideal for shielding the face from damaging UV rays, but they also trap heat, leading to uncomfortable trickles of sweat--a distraction not only from your workout, but from the outdoor views. We recently heard that the US Women's Rowing team has found an answer to this problem: the Headsweats hat, which is part of the team's official training gear. These athletes work out for hours on the open water without sun-blocking trees or shadows for protection, so despite the product's somewhat counter-intuitive name, we trust their judgment. The Headsweats Race Hat looks like a regular baseball cap, but it's made from a proprietary fabric shell that has Coolmax to wick away moisture and allow it to evaporate, as well as a Coolmax-blend terry headband under the brim to catch drops on those humid, soupy days. At less than two ounces, it feels practically weightless (the Race Hat doesn't fit well under a bike helmet, but there are other cap designs that do). While the US Olympic rowers will be wearing their caps while practicing on Dorney Lake near London this summer, we're thinking of getting one for our own weekend sprints around the neighborhood.

Today marks the end of National Short Story Month (NaShoStoMo for short—and yes, this exists, in addition to May being National Bike Month, National Hamburger Month, and National Moving Month. Who knew?) Some of our favorite works of fiction this past year were story collections (plus: remember Oprah’s 2009 Book Club pick, the short story collection about children in Africa, “Say You’re One of Them”?), and while looking for a way to celebrate them, we stumbled on Storyville, an app that lets you keep up with the newest ones out there without purchasing a library's worth of different collections. Every Tuesday, you receive a single fresh story right to your phone or ipad—ranging from tales by Pulitzer Prize-winning authors like Jennifer Egan to those by up-and-comers like Emma Straub and Tania James.

“Every year, hundreds of wonderful short stories are published, but readers have no idea they exist,” says Paul Vidich, one of Storyville's co-founders. “We’re trying to engage fiction fans in a new conversation. And with the stories on your phone or iPad, they’re always with you—on the bus, at the airport, in your bed. (Paul is right about that: I got so caught up reading writer Ana Menendez’s Traveling Fools, a whimsical yarn about a man who flies away on a weather balloon while waiting in line at Starbucks that I didn’t even hear the cashier call my name three times!)
 
Here’s a few more fast, easy ways to delve into short stories that should hold you over until NaShoStoMo 2013:
  • The Library of America’s Story of the Week website curates a classic mix of authors (everybody from Edgar Allan Poe to Susan Orlean!) If you subscribe to the weekly newsletter, you get a new story in your e-mail inbox every Monday.
  • FiveChapters.com publishes a short story online in five parts every weekday, kind of like an online, literary soap opera!
  • One-Story.com sends subscribers short stories every three weeks in the mail. On the website, you can check out Q&As with the authors, discuss plotlines with other subscribers on the blog, and submit stories yourself.
Read More:
Unrequited love stories
John Irving's new smash novel
Taking responsibility for your beliefs and judgments gives you the power to change them.
— Byron Katie
Photo: Thinkstock
Photo: Thinkstock
Happily, it so happens every now and then that a personal obsession dovetails with a media moment. See also: Martha Gellhorn. This brilliant novelist, fearless war correspondent, and all-around generous human has been one of my Favorite Kick-A** Women Heroes of All Time since I first found out about her -- through her letters to my grandmother, no less. Gellhorn also happened to be, for a time, the wife of some guy named Ernest Hemingway. A movie featuring Nicole Kidman as Gellhorn just debuted on HBO, reminding us all about this amazing, gutsy woman.

As I watched the movie, I wondered if there were any possible way I could be an eensy bit more like Martha Gellhorn. Leggy, blonde, and effortlessly glamorous? I effortlessly choose to put on pajama pants around 5:00 pm every day, if that counts. Courageous and restless? Eh, not really, though I do restlessly peruse the internet, sometimes for many hours at a time. Prone to torrid affairs with wild men? Gosh, no! A world-traveler? Well, maybe not so far, but hey, life is long, and Colleen Kinder has conveniently provided a cheatsheet over at National Geographic: Martha Gellhorn's Top 5 Getaways.

Here are the 5 places, from Cuba to Wales, where this intrepid traveler went when she wanted to get away from it all. We may not all be recovering from, say, reporting on D-Day, or recuperating after divorcing a Nobel laureate, but everyone needs to recharge sometimes. And these off-the-beaten-path travel destinations -- snorkeling in Kenya, anyone? -- seem like they would be just the place to get reacquainted with that eminent personage, yourself.

Read More:
What Every World-Traveler Needs
Books for the Armchair Traveler
Topics: Books, Best Life
Photo: Thinkstock
Photo: Thinkstock
We know, we know: we are supposed to forgive, to learn to let go. Holding onto anger makes us sick. Forgiveness is good not just for the people we forgive, but for us, too.

But how, oh how, do people do it? I'm still furious about a prank that was pulled on me in seventh grade. People like me would do well to study Fatemah Golmakani. This woman is a beacon of goodwill and forgiveness. Her 22-year-old son was murdered last year in an act of gang violence so brutal that Golmakani suffered a heart attack while hearing the details in court. Since the four killers were sentenced to prison, Golmakani has summoned up vast forces of compassion, and now plans to start a charity to help the teens who killed her son.

According to the Huffington Post, Golmakani said, "What these men didn’t realize was that when they murdered my son, all their hopes and dreams were buried in Milad’s grave with him." She wants to start a charity that will include a safe space for troubled teens -- and you'll never guess how she plans to raise the money to get her charity off the ground. This woman is the definition of large-hearted, and it occurs to me, this is what it truly means to be a mother. The care-and-feeding-of-the-young is one part of it, but also there is this, the consciousness that every troubled person, even a criminal, is somebody's baby, has a damaged child inside of them. That everyone, even a murderer, wants to be forgiven and loved. If only we could all go through our daily lives remembering this, what Fatemah knows: "that forgiveness is the greatest remedy for grief."

Read More:
Forgiveness in Action
Give Yourself the Gift of Forgiveness
4 Steps to Forgiveness
Topics: Family, Parenting, News
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