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February 2012 (120 posts) Back to Life Lift Home

Every Monday, we're rounding up the things, small and big, that make us stop and think. Today, we're inspired by...

“You wait for a voice like that for a lifetime.”
—Music producer Clive Davis, speaking at Whitney Houston's funeral.

“Marriage is about two flawed people making each other better...And with us a lot of the time, we make ourselves better by fighting.”
Cupcake baker and small business owner Allison Robicelli, on working (and arguing) with her husband.

"I knew that I was going to continue to cartoon and write no matter what happened, no matter what lousy job I had to have. But there was no indication that it was going to work, that it was going to pay off."
Matt Groening, the creator of The Simpsons, which just aired its 500th episode.

"Are you apprehensive about the situation you're in? Yeah, but you volunteered, you want to do this thing, it's important for the country, and you're glad to have been selected for it, and you're going to do the best job you can possibly do."
--John Glenn, on being the first American astronaut to go into orbit, 50 years ago today.




Topics: Aha! Moments, Quotes

When you're dealing with a Really Big Problem, the kind that involves so many questions you don't even know where to start, it's easy to decide that the best solution is to dive into bed and watch epic sessions of Say Yes to the Dress. Unsurprisingly, this strategy will not actually help you tackle your dilemma.

Which is where Deepak Chopra comes in. To find your way out of this Really Big Problem, he says there are only three questions you ever need to ask. The trick is, it's only possible to ask them if you don't consider any of the following questions:

  1. What's wrong with me?
  2. Whom can I blame?
  3. What's the worst-case scenario?
So.... what the only three questions you really need to ask? Take a look....
Sleep is that golden chain that ties health and our bodies together. 
—  Thomas Dekker 
Photo: Thinkstock
Photo: Thinkstock
It's hard to find fault with a slice of cinnamon raisin bread toasted and spread with butter. It was a treat when I was a kid, and I still think of it as a more fun version of that most basic breakfast option, toast. (And if you haven't untwisted a swirl of cinnamon raisin bread lately, piece by piece, you really aren't living life to the fullest.)

Recently, though, people have been telling me about ways to incorporate it into other standbys. They're all classic breakfast, lunch and dessert dishes. But by replacing plain old white bread (or even healthy--but, let's face it, occasionally ho-hum--whole wheat bread) with cinnamon raisin bread, they get a tiny lift. From basic to...yes, a little out-there, here they are:

1. PB&J
2. French Toast
3. Bread Pudding
4. Apple Crisp (tear up pieces and add them to the crumble over the fruit)
5. DIY Danish: Make a sandwich out of two slices of toasted cinnamon raisin bread and fruited cottage cheese.

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Photo: Thinkstock
Recently I was walking with my daughter and her three-year-old friend in the park near our home. "Should we stop by the duck pond and see the ducks?" asked the friend's father. "Nah," said the little girl, "we don't have any quarters."

Follow-up questions were rebuffed, but I think the idea was that we needed quarters to make the ducks go, or maybe to get food to feed the ducks, a la the petting zoo. We laughed it off as yet another city kid moment (like when my daughter responded with great curiosity at the strange term "driveway").

But according to this story from the BBC News, more and more kids—and adults—are living lives divorced from nature, and the results can be bad for your health.  As we all spend more of our time plugged into various screens than we do outside, we may be suffering from what author Richard Louv calls "nature-deficit disorder." Part of the concern is that kids growing up disconnected from nature will care less about the environment and the world around them. Another concern is that we are all missing out on the health benefits of fresh air, getting dirty, and connecting with nature. A life lived indoors generally means less exercise and of course less sunlight. The article quotes a study that visitors to a green space in Yorkshire felt a greater sense of well-being. All we have to do to go outside and play. (And you don't even need to bring any quarters.)

Read the article for more on "forest schools" for children, the Japanese concept of "forest bathing," and other ways we can get more outside time in our inside lives.

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Photo: Dimacci
Photo: Dimacci
We thought this adjustable Italian leather cuff had it all when it came in 11 vibrant colors, but now that shimmery cubic zirconium have been added to the horse bit-style buckle we're falling for this accessory all over again. Available in three shades (black, brown, or cognac) and with gold plating or stainless steel, you can stack this with a round-faced metal watch or a collection of skinny gold bangles.   $200, Dimacci.de



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There is power in walking into a room and feeling good about the way you look and who you are.
— Viola Davis
What would improve your morning commute? A slightly disheveled, elderly man, standing by the side of the road and shouting at you? No? What if he was saying: "Have a good day! Good morning! I love you! I love you! I will always love you!"

I was having a grumbly morning of my own when I saw this See Monkey blog post featuring this amazing short documentary by Matt Morris about Mr. Happy Man himself, a fellow named Johnny Barnes.  Barnes, who describes himself as an instrument of God, plants himself on a street corner in Bermuda every morning from 4 to 10 am, simply to remind people that it's good to be alive, to be happy.  In the video Barnes describes how he started this project and why, and a collection of locals talk about what it's like to see Mr. Happy Man every morning—in good weather and bad—and what he means to them. In some ways it's a story about community, and the place one person can have in the lives of his neighbors. And in some ways, it's a story about happiness, and about how happiness can belong to each of us.

One woman talks about heading to work on a bad day and trying specifically to avoid  Barnes, because as she put it, she wanted to hold on to her heavy feeling. Inevitably, he caught her eye, and seeing him forced to smile. She describes how this moment made her realize that she had a choice every day about how she wants her day to be. Here is the message of Mr. Happy Man—that each of us can experience pure happiness every day, if only we choose it.

Mr. Happy Man from Matt Morris Films on Vimeo.

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Photo: Thinkstock
Photo: Thinkstock
Sometimes the most frustrating part about dealing with depression or anxiety isn't not knowing what to do about it--it's knowing what you should do and still, for whatever reason, not being able to do it. Take the example of a really bummed-out woman lying on the couch, mentally collecting all of the upsetting psychic Play-Doh bits that are troubling her and sticking them together to make one ugly, pieced-together ball-of-woe. She's done this before, so she knows she should pick up the phone and call someone--her mom, her best friend, her therapist--but she just doesn't have the energy. So the ball-of-woe keeps getting bigger and heavier.

Researchers at Northwestern University are currently working on an app to help depressed people who find themselves in this situation. A recent Scientific American podcast succinctly explains (in less than a minute and a half, no less) how the app, called Mobilyze!, will use the GPS and accelerometer from a depressed patient's smartphone to track their habits and identify when they're sunken into the couch for hours on end. The phone will then send them impossible-to-ignore reminders to do things like call someone who can help them snap out of their funk.

There are more apps in the works for other mental health issues, too. Scientists are interested in finding ways to combine smartphones and cognitive behavioral therapy techniques to help people get effective treatment on the go, or when they're least likely to ask for it. Benedict Carey, a science reporter for the New York Times, describes an app for people with social anxiety that involves a repetitive game that, with practice, could distract them from hostile faces in a crowd (read the article to see how this app could potentially train the party-phobic to calm down, refocus and enjoy themselves in a large group).

Neither of these apps are currently available to the public--nor is the one European psychologists are developing for heavy drinkers that involves virtually "pushing" away alcoholic beverages. But until they are, there's this: Steps Away is a meeting locator app that helps recovering addicts find, add and map directions to the nearest 12-step meeting. It may not provide instant therapy, but it can show some people who need it exactly where to find it.
Topics: Health
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