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The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself.
— Anna Quindlen
Did you miss seeing Oprah on Jimmy Kimmel? Well, last night after the Oscars®, they chatted about a few things, like the time she almost got strangled during her first appearance at the awards, and what happens when she goes to the DMV, plus a few of Jimmy's ideas for new OWN shows. Our favorite: Book Club Fight Club.

To see what Oprah thought of Jimmy's ideas, and what happens when people annoy her in her office (hint: it ain’t pretty), check out the clips!




Topics: News

Every Monday, we're rounding up the things, small and big, that make us stop and think. Today, we're inspired by...

"At a time of tug of war, intimidation and aggressions exchanged between politicians, the name of their county, Iran, is spoken here through her glorious culture, a rich and ancient culture that has been hidden under the heavy dust of politics."
-Asghar Farhadi, director of Iranian film "The Separation," which won the Oscar for Best Foreign Language film.

 "As long as you were open and playful and answered all their questions, it was only a big deal for about an hour or two."
-Vietnam vet Ron Cushman, on teaching young children about his prosthetic limb.

"Because re-experiencing offers a way to look at oneself through the same lens but with different eyes, it offers many therapeutic benefits."
-Consumer behavior researcher Cristel Russell, on why we love to reread our favorite books and rewatch our favorite movies.

"We behold them as they are when we are not there. We see life as it is when we have no part in it."
-Virginia Woolf, in a 1926 essay about the cinema.





Topics: Aha! Moments, Quotes
Every Monday, we'll be letting you know about new releases the editors at O and Oprah.com couldn't stop reading. This week, we're in love with a paperback release of the comedic English novel:

The Old Romantic
by Louise Dean

Just about everyone who turns 18 dreams of changing their name and running off into the night, never to be seen again. But what if you actually did it and ended up, not on the mythical open road, but at the one of the best universities in the country? What if you became, not a rock star or famous painter, but a divorce lawyer, with all the stereotypical trappings; Range Rover, flashy flat, spa-addicted girlfriend? Deep into middle age, Nick finally comes home to confront/forgive/survive his long-abandoned father, Ken— one of the crankiest, cheapest, sourest, most foul-mouthed men on the planet, who's also begun to question his own life choices, due to a new friendship with an obese undertaker. What ensues goes far, far deeper than the repair of one familial relationship as Nick's brother, mother, stepmother, sister-in-law, girlfriend, ex-girlfriend, and old roommates from Cambridge get involved—each with his or her own versions of what happened when Nick disappeared in the past and each with his or her own role to play in his future. As a writer, Dean's gift is to make totally unappealing people intriguing, funny, vulnerable, and even lovable. You'll end up laughing (with glee!) as Nick, Nick's brother and his father Ken hit the road to chase down Ken's trod-upon ex-wife and his supposedly stolen 40,000 pounds, only to have your heart broken when Nick admits finally, "He wanted to be in the car with his family," remembering a childhood trip when "they came back from that cherry-pie pub....mouths full of After-Eight mints, his mother dispensing them from her handbag, fairly and squarely, and how he and his brother slept the sleep of angels in the back of the car, how sleep was never as good as that ever again, a rocking contentment, well fed, happy... lurching in and out of his tubby little brother and ending up at their favorite arrangement, where he had his head on his brother's back and his brother had his head on his lap." This is the genius of The Old Romantic, which captures so acutely those moments when our golden looks at the past brush up against with our black, bleak visions of the present, leaving us to decide which view, exactly, will permanently color the other—and ourselves.

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Topics: Books
You have to ask yourself, 'Does this item or thought or response move me closer to my vision for my best life?' If it does, great. If it doesn't, what is it doing in your life?
— Peter Walsh
Happy Friday! Time for us to write in our gratitude journal. These are just a few things that made our week:

New Yorkers have a bad reputation for being a touch, shall we say, on the grouchy side—swearing at taxi drivers, grumbling about tourists and high rents and slices of pizza served an instant too slowly. Not so Anthony Pisano, whom The Gothamist dubs The Nicest Man in the East Village. Pisano has lived in his East Village apartment for 30 years, which is packed with a fascinating trove of antique treasures—a curio-hunter's dream (and a minimalist's nightmare). When the weather is nice, he stands outside his open door and invites people in to check out his stuff. What could seem like an oddball hoarder situation is tempered by what Pisano says about his experience welcoming people into his home. Pisano notes that many senior citizens feel "discarded" or lonely, but that he has found a way to stay connected with people, which gives him "a lot of beautiful feelings." And you have to hear his story of how he used his apartment to bring a quarreling couple together. He really is the nicest man in the East Village! In fact, he just might be the nicest man in all of New York City. (He's certainly the most trusting.)

This Is My Home from Mark on Vimeo.

Additional footage can be seen at Departure/Arrival Films.

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Topics: Life Lifters, Home
Photo: Thinkstock
Photo: Thinkstock
Remember those fitness tests you had to take in gym class? The ones where you huffed and puffed through the sprint drills, grimaced while reaching for your toes, and, most memorably, sweated and trembled through one dramatic pull-up (or more likely, hung in the air for an interminable "stay-up")? Well, they're back: in adult form. You can now take an adult version of the President's Challenge fitness test online.

The new test, which is free, involves four components: aerobic fitness (a 1 mile walk or 1.5 mile run), muscular strength and endurance (crunches and push-ups), flexibility (the good ol' sit-and-reach) and body composition (your BMI and waist circumference). You don't have to do any of these in front of giggling, gossiping, preteen witnesses, but the test-makers suggest they're more fun with a partner. When you're done, you can enter your data online to see how you measure up to other fit Americans.

We're pretty excited about this. Back in school, the tests seemed like pop quizzes that we didn't have a chance to study or prepare for. Worse, we had to execute all of the moves in front of our friends. But in the past tentwenty-odd years (who's counting?), we've been taking our health more seriously. In the immortal words of LMFAO, we're sexy and we know it--we work out. Even if we don't smoke the test this time, we know can take it again in the future, which means--keep doing those push-ups. It's also fun to know that no matter how we score, we can still buy one of these nifty, nostalgic patches and a completion certificate--just like the one we got many years ago. 
Topics: Health
Photo: Thinkstock
Photo: Thinkstock
We know--Brad Pitt will probably be calling you any minute now with the news that Angelina has a cold and he needs you to stand in for her on Sunday night... but it's good to have a back-up plan just in case. Settle in for a long evening of ballgowns and tears with some fabulous food inspired by the nominated films, whether it's a Southern spread inspired by The Help or a French dinner a la Midnight in Paris. Here, a few ideas to get you started—and be sure to check out our Oscar Party Menu, which includes 16 cocktails, snacks, mains, sides and desserts that you can eat on the couch, with one hand holding your ballot. (Oh wait, is that Brad's publicist calling?)

The Help
Brothers Matt and Ted Lee, who are from Charleson, S.C., have based their recipes on ones they've found in slender church pamphlets, spiral-bound fundraisers for the Junior League and other sources. Their Lansdowne Punch and Shrimp and Deviled-Egg Salad Sandwiches will bring you right into one of the film's ladies' bridge party scenes.

Midnight in Paris
Channel your inner Parisienne and serve gougeres, little cheese puffs that go perfectly with chilled white wine; beef stew with cognac and horseradish mustard, perfect for a February night; and lavender creme brulee, which we can totally picture Owen Wilson's character lapping up with gusto as he goes on about la vie en rose.
Topics: Food
Love takes off masks that we fear we cannot live without and know we cannot live within. 
—  James Baldwin 
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