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July 2011 (137 posts)
I haven't written lately because my technically challenged self could not access this email account. So many barriers were put in place to protect the account, I ended up barring myself from access.
So here we go...last week was at the Allen Conference with all the movers and shapers of our world. Met some fascinating people, like Sheryl Sandberg, COO of Facebook. Dynamo woman. So exciting to see women crack that glass ceiling and burst through it. Came home inspired to work harder and do better.
Started out the week taking swimming lessons. Moving beyond my amateur doggy paddle. Learned the breaststroke today.
Over a year ago, I pulled a picture from O mag of a woman gliding through water. It was such a striking image of freedom and possibility, I put it on my vision board (which I've still not completed). Today, when I finished my swimming lesson, I passed the vision board lying on the table where it's been since 2009. I had an aha! moment.
Thursdays Are from Mars: Remembering Gilligan's Island and a Grooming Product You'll Want for Yourself
Men! What are they thinking? We can't always answer that, but we'll be posting our favorite glimpses into their world in this space every Thursday.
* "It hit me that just an ounce of the unexpected can have a tremendous effect—and that a single word can change everything." — From Breaking Bad star Bryan Cranston's Aha! Moment. The AMC show returns for its fourth season on Sunday night. [O magazine; AMC]
* Anyone mourning the passing of Gilligan's Island creator Sherwood Schwartz should read Gilligan's Wake author and GQ writer Tom Carson's remembrance of meeting him unexpectedly at a book signing. [GQ.com]
* Get your man the summer heat-wave survival kit—if only to steal the deodorant for yourself. [Esquire.com]
* Clear eyes, full hearts, can't lose. Fans of Friday Night Lights sad to see the show come to an end tomorrow at least have a very thorough oral history to catch up on. [Grantland]
* "My dad looked back at me and said, 'Yes, that's your brother, and you love your brother.'" — Former Dallas Cowboys wide receiver Michael Irvin describes his struggle to come to terms with his older brother's homosexuality. [Out]
We recently told you about the first 3D printed swimsuit, but it was just announced that Kristin Cavallari (star of The Hills) will be walking the runway tomorrow at Miami Fashion Week Swim in a bikini made of...glass. While it's certainly cutting edge, we imagine that sitting poolside or actually swimming in this creation would be nearly impossible. Plus, you'd need to apply sunscreen to parts of your body that, ahem, you never thought needed sunscreen before.
If the idea of walking onto the beach in this swimsuit makes you cringe, here are 8 confidence-boosting and affordable options to try on for size. Like the one at left by Yokini, which which has a 5-in-1 bottom that can be rolled up or down depending on the amount of coverage you desire.
For more swimsuit advice keep reading:
Find the most flattering swimsuit for your body
Slimming suits for plus-size women
Pear-shaped? 7 styles made for you.
A couple of months later, Donna Dannenfelser, Ed.D., a Long Island housewife-turned-therapist, is counseling pro football players in her home while her kids watch TV. The team starts turning things around. Fast forward a decade, and Dr. Donna, as the players call her, is advising high-profile patients and working as a supervising producer on a show based on her career (Necessary Roughness, Wednesdays on USA).
We thought the woman who made that call to the Jets would have some smart advice about the tough situations we sometimes find ourselves dealing with.
Situation 1: The blow off
We've got an awesome idea but the people in charge won't listen--not unlike that Jets trainer. How do you get past a no answer?
[On the jump, find out how she got a yes--and how you can too]
I used to be rigid about the accumulation of things I don’t need. Lately, though, I am relenting. I go soft at the knees for rusted farm tools, a mason jar of old unmatched buttons, a set of slightly bent tins saying “flour” “salt” and “coffee.” I buy this stuff without thinking at garage sales or weekend markets. It makes me long for the countryside I never grew up in—barns to coleslaw.
Last week I tried to take home—no joke—an old, dead stump. A man had cut down his tree and was giving away the 3-foot tall stump. It weighed about 100 pounds. I tried to carry/roll/drag it to the car. My husband watched me. He felt embarrassed. So did I. Worse, I lied to him, loudly, so that other people would hear me and think I was a normal person. “We can make a lamp out of it!” I said.
“It’s a stump,” my husband said.
“It’s like a rope swing without the swing!” I said.
“Think about it this way,” he said. “It’s history.”
We left the stump on the side of the road. As we should have. Because I needed another way to indulge my nostalgia for the past I never had. Luckily, I found such a place. It’s called dearphotograph.com.
After mixing the cake batter (and at Godiva, all cake batters are chocolate--go figure), pouring it into the pan and baking it completely through, Muret pulls the cake out of the oven and lets it cool on a wire rack until it is lukewarm enough that he can handle it. He removes it from the pan and then wraps the entire cake with cellophane wrap--and this is crucial--twice. You must wrap the cake tightly, he says. Then he puts it in the freezer overnight or for eight hours.
[Next: the icing on the cake]
It's officially hump day--but to help Friday come a little faster shop these fun finds all under $30.
The Laundress for J.Crew Collars and Cuffs Stain Bar, $7. Don't have time to get to the dry cleaners? Rub away the ring around the collar of your favorite white button-down with this gentle stain remover.
The Little Yoga Mat, $25. Help your tiny yogi Zen out with one of these pint-sized mats.
Alice Supply Co. Hammer, $26. You might be more interested in doing manual labor if your tools were covered in bright, bold patterns like these.
Speak Up Tattly Temporary Tattoo, $5 for 2. Forget your hairbrush--apply one of these mini microphone tattoos to your thumb and belt your favorite tune into your finger instead.
Make Your Own Havianas, starting at $25. Create customized flip-flops: Choose everything from the color to accessories for the straps. You're guaranteed to be the only one wearing them at the beach.
Every week, we'll be letting you know about new releases the editors at O and Oprah.com couldn't stop reading. On sale today...
by Esmeralda Santiago
The genius idea: A Puerto Rican Gone with the Wind
The passage that sets the mood: "The end of her cigar was a beacon, her voice syrupy and languid and full with promises. On the floor below her was a bottle of rum."
For readers who adore: hammocks, corsets, sherry, lace, sugar cane and forbidden love
Spanish word we learned: finca (estate)
Larger message (gulp): The history—and slaves—behind the romance of the early 19th-century sugar trade
I thought of her with guilt last week, while I was tipping a package of peanut M&M's into my mouth (what? It was a rough week), and with enormous respect today when I read about a new study that explains the addictive power of high-fat foods. To measure how taste alone affects the body's response to food, scientists from California and Italy fed different groups of rats liquid diets high in one of these three substances: fat, sugar or protein. As soon as the fatty liquid hit the rats' taste buds, their digestive systems began producing endocannabinoids, chemicals similar to those produced by marijuana use, and these rats showed a craving for more fatty food.
Fat is necessary for proper cell functioning, one of the study authors told The New York Times, explaining that "we have this evolutionary drive to recognize fat, and when we have access to it, to consume as much as we possibly can." The problem is our prehistoric ancestors weren't out hunting deep-fried Twinkies, so we've got to outsmart these biological impulses.
I personally find the study reassuring. If we accept that most of us don't have the same snack-mastery--call it willpower, or fortitude, or discipline--as my old friend, and if we acknowledge that one high-fat potato chip will probably lead to a binge, we may be more likely to think twice about indulging at all. Or at least, to save the benders for when we really, really need them.