How to Deal with AWOL Thank You Notes

 
Dealing with AWOL Thank You Notes

What Do I Do Now?

You give a gift and the recipient doesn't thank you. Jancee Dunn consults the experts about three ways to handle it.

"That's easy: Don't give another one!"
— Jack Marshall, president of ProEthics.

"This, to me, is one of the most egregious ethical transgressions. After an objectionable amount of thankless time has passed, send an e-mail that says, 'Hope you're enjoying your cilantro-soy candle/subscription to Peafowl Quarterly/Clive Owen blow-up doll.'"
— Faith Salie, host of the public radio show Fair Game from PRI with Faith Salie.

"If you gave the gift to hear thank you, you probably gave it for the wrong reason. Just let it go and remember to say thank you the next time you receive a present."
— Pastor Rudy Rasmus of St. John's United Methodist Church in Houston.


 

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