A Shy Girl's Guide to Sex

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The Sex Experts vs. The Shy Girl

It's not that she doesn't like sex; it's that she prefers subtlety, indirection, holding off. The shy girl has a showdown with the experts. Whether it's sparkly rouge on your nipples or a gradual unveiling in the dark, you be the judge.  

What the experts say:
"Dressing for sex is a major part of fantasy role-playing." — Orgasms for Two: The Joy of Partnersex

What the shy girl says:
If you're not a French maid, don't dress like one. Be yourself. Any piece of clothing can be sexy with a quietly passionate woman inside it.

What the experts say:
"Part of talking hot is knowing what kind of language works for you and your partner." — Sex Talk: Uncensored Exercises for Exploring What Really Turns You On

What the shy girl says:
Silence is rich. Use body language. Speak with your fingers and your eyes.  

What the experts say:
"If the two of you decide you'd like to make love outdoors, you might want to pack a picnic meal, making sure to include your favorite sex accessories." — The 10 Secrets to Great Sex

What the shy girl says:
Leave a little to chance. Gravitate toward a quiet place (preferably a desert island), and let nature take its course.  

What the experts say:
"Find a sexy, R-rated movie. Have a movie night with your partner." — Sex Matters for Women

What the shy girl says:
Watching perfect strangers have sex onscreen is overrated and makes you squirm. Find a movie—e.g., The Remains of the Day—in which everything is suggested and nothing shown. Let the sex come later, as a surprise.  

What the experts say:
"Spend some time writing down reaffirming statements about yourself, such as 'I am sexy,' 'I inspire others' or 'I have beautiful eyes.' Carry these statements with you always, on cards in your wallet." — Sexual Fitness

What the shy girl says: Never write anything down unless you want to see it posted on the wall in the women's room.  

What the experts say:
"Outrageously flaunt the beauty of your erogenous zones. Wear...blush in your cleavage, red or sparkly rouge on your nipples." — 302 Advanced Techniques for Driving a Man Wild in Bed

What the shy girl says:
Show yourself gradually. Darkness is your friend. Draw the shades so you can let loose without embarrassment. Revel in your other senses for starters; then light a candle or two.