"Most of the arguments that you have had in your life have not been about the specific thing but they've been about what is behind the thing that you're arguing about...And if you peel back the layers, what is usually behind the things that we're arguing about is, Do you hear me? Does what I say mean anything to you? Do I matter? That's what everybody is looking for."
"Your relationship with your spouse, with your family, with your friends all can change if you get this lesson that took me to my late 20s, probably mid-30s to actually fully realize: Love does not hurt."